Honest opinion of gingers

[EmmaBray]

Hello, my work colleague is a male ginge and seems to regard himself as being a suitable subject for the undateables! He's a lovely man and would do anything for anyone and he is really funny once he opens up. Problem is he's painfully shy at first especially around women, think looking at his feet whilst talking. He is a bit naive and has been taken for a fool before now as well as having people openly insult him with regards to his colouring. Anyway to cut a long story short he has given up on looking altogether since his last online dating fiasco. Any thoughts negative or positive to help?

[Squeegle]

jeanne, we don't go grey.... We just fade.

[ColdTeaAgain]

"Male ginge" ffs just go and have a word with yourself OP. People like you looking down your nose at him hasn't exactly helped his self esteem has it.

[TokenGinger]

Personally, I think I'm fucking awesome.

I get what he's saying though; I've heard lots of closed minded comments about ginger men not being desirable or people wouldn't choose a ginger man in case they had ginger kids etc.

Some people are dickheads.

[WorraLiberty]

There's nothing wrong with ginger hair

Equally, there's nothing wrong with grey hair

It's all just hair colour and pretty unimportant in the grand scheme of things

[TokenGinger]

I must admit, I do say I don't want my children to take after me and be ginger, only because I'd hate for them to be bullied in the way I was. But I look at my hair now and think it's absolutely gorgeous!

[ouryve]

I'm married to one. It's a hair colour, at the end of the day, with no more positive or negative qualities than being blond or brunette or anything else at all.

[Hellochicken]

I agree with pp that I'm not sure this will help him.

However, since you asked, I honestly think ginger hair is a bit special as it is less common.

I'd date someone with any hair colour or none. It is difficult to describe who I would find attractive, it's several things and I wouldn't just pick someone for their hair colour.

[Binders1]

I have a crush on Damian Lewis (Homeland).

Your colleagues hair colour has nothing to do with him being 'unlucky' in love.

The title of your thread is unnecessary.

[sleepyhead]

The most unexpected people said to me "hope it's not ginger" when I was pregnant. And "bet you're glad he's not ginger" or "it's easier for girls" (having red hair)

Honestly, I know reading threads passim re: hair colour that lots of people have had no trouble with their hair colour and nothing but compliments on the hair colour of their children, but the casual dickishness of people who seem otherwise sensible did shock me with both dcs.

I have red hair, neither ds does, no-one else in my family does - even my sister in law got "ooh bet you're hoping the ginger gene doesn't pop up!" when pregnant - db does not have red hair. Sil does not have red hair - but I do therefore speculation on db's "carrier" status.

Sometimes it's said as a "funny" joke, but sometimes it's so casually said that the speaker clearly assumes any right minded person would agree with them.

So your colleague may well have had a hard time which has dented his confidence. It's a vanishingly small minority though, and not really people he would want to be involved with. (Caveat, people fancy who they fancy - nothing wrong with that).

[Solitaireaddict]

He's having problems because he sounds painfully shy, not because he's a redhead.

Although being bluntly honest I generally do not find red heads attractive either. But I know plenty of people who do.

[elizalovelace]

Honest opinion? Red/ginger hair is my absolute fave hair colour on men or women, in fact I dye my hair those shades.

[ToastedOrFresh]

If I didn't have red hair, my husband would not have married me. He likes women, but it's red haired women that really get his motor running.

Prince Harry has done wonders for red haired men all over the world. Sorry I'll rephrase that, he has upped the profile of red haired men.

Blond haired men do nothing for me. I've had a couple of blond boyfriends when I was single. Nope, sorry, not for me. Can only be one fair haired person in the relationship.

Dark haired men are to my taste. Not all of them, obviously.

I didn't think I found red haired men attractive but Prince Harry in uniform without his beard....phwoar !

There was a bloke at my school with red hair. He was a nice looking bloke. There was a bloke in my home town with red hair who worked on local radio. Yummy, yes please x.

[FannyFifer]

I love red headed men, DH is ginger, I was honestly disappointed that my kids don't have ginger hair.
If you're Irish or Scottish then ginger hair is very common.

[Friendlystories]

I love red heads, always been a bit envious of women with red hair and have dated a couple of ginger haired men. Your friend needs to find a way to embrace his gingerness, I had a red headed friend in school and people did try to tease him about his colouring, he used to grin at them and say 'yes I know I'm ginger, gorgeous isn't it', it worked because he turned every ginger 'insult' into a compliment which left the bullies nowhere to go with it. Wouldn't bother me one bit if my kids were red heads and I would teach them to respond the same way as him to teasing, it's good to be unusual as long as you celebrate it rather than trying to be like everyone else. People's tastes are varied and learning to love what and who you are so you exude confidence will always attract people. Your friend needs to realise that some peoples' 'type' is ginger and let that give him confidence, once he has that he will attract people regardless of his hair colour.

[Binders1]

Ooh yes, prince Harry is quite cute too - nice rugged luck about him.

My nephew's nickname at school is 'ginger ninja' and he loves it. He is a very handsome young boy with a sprinkling of freckles on the top of his cheekbones and his hair colour changes with the sun. The only thing he dislikes is going bright red when embarrassed. He is definitely going to be a catch when he is older.

[Binders1]

Look not luck!

[ExasperatedAlmostAlways]

I honestly thought this was just the sort of crap that went on in the playground. I can't believe grown adults also treat someone differently, just because they have ginger hair. Two of the funniest, most confident guys I know are ginger. They also both managed to pull alot of women.

I only really find dark, almost black haired men attractive, it's just my preference. I'm sure there's also people who feel the same about blonde, ginger, brown etc. I definitely know my friends are all a mix of what their preference is. Actually just thought of another guy I know who's ginger and a really lovely, popular confident guy.

I think your workmates personality is nothing to do with his hair colour.

Tokenginger your hairs absolutely amazing!! Gorgeous colour and curls!

I do have a thing for Damien Lewis actually.

Someone up thread said move to Scotland your kids get bullied for not having ginger hair. Not sure if that's a joke. Where I live in a class of say thirty there's about three or four on average with ginger hair. Its just really not something hats a big deal here at all.

[Ledkr]

My dd has ginger/red hair but if I heard anyone refer to her as "a ginge" Id probably deck them. She is a little girl not a ginge. How rude.

[Bogeyface]

Only a ginger can call another ginger "ginger"

I am one and I think they are lovely, but I am poker straight and sooo envy tokens curls! But my advice to him with OLD is to put on his profile "I am ginger, if you dont want to date me based on the colour of my hair then I dont want to date you because you are an idiot".

[ExasperatedAlmostAlways]

"Only a ginger can call another ginger, ginger" nope never heard that rule here.

Never ever known anyone with red hair I know (and there's many) say they don't like being called ginger. that's what everyone iv ever spoke to call it, it's not offensive here. Its just not a big deal here for anyone to have red hair. Maybe why people don't get offended by the term ginger being used, as it's not used offensively at all.

[ComposHatComesBack]

Someone up thread said move to Scotland your kids get bullied for not having ginger hair. Not sure if that's a joke.

Sort of. Over-exaggeration for comic effect. But I do think that having a significant number of ginger kids in each class means they aren't targeted in the same way that they would be if there were one or two in each year.

[ExasperatedAlmostAlways]

I wouldn't blame you for that Ledkr, referring to someone as ginge is rude.theor hair doesn't define them.

What I meant in my last post is people say here you have gorgeous ginger hair and that's not considered offensive. You wouldn't say alright ginger or something. I know two guys with the nickname ginge, and they don't mind it but thats different to someone calling a child ginge.or saying he/she's a ginge.

[ExasperatedAlmostAlways]

Yip totally agree with that compos it just isn't an issue here at all.

[Lweji]

I certainly wouldn't say undatable.

But he may need to work on his confidence and personal skills. Those may be a bigger problem than being ginger.