Wondering about text from dh

[Wonderingaboutthis]

A Friedan accidentally tex try husband thinking it was me as she had both our numbers inner phone. She doesn't know it was my husband.
She screen shot the texts saying how funny I was texting you but it wasn't.
Dh, after establishing that they didn't knew each other, and she apologised. Text back 'no problem, are you fit?' With a laughing smilie.

Should I say anything? I thought we were all good, except we haven't had sex in a while I suppose, but apart from that just daily life. No arguments, we don't really argue.

Or do I say nothing? Send a jokey text?

Have a friend coming over soon so might disappear for a while, and I have to work tonight so can't really start anything with dh tonight, he is out tomorrow and the kids are obviously here all weekend.

I never thought he would chest but then I never thought he would text a random like that either! :(

Gruntled
" It's ridiculous to characterise this as an invitation for anything more"

Bit of a strong statement there Gruntled.

Might be fine for you but no need to be mocking of the people who wouldn't do this/find it funny.

People fire off texts with only half their brain engaged, when they're walking along with their phone... I can imagine jokily accepting a lunch invitation from a stranger by text
"If you're paying! Shame you've got the wrong number :-( "
I wouldn't actually go of course.

My teenagers have been teaching me, it's a whole new etiquette by phone. If she doesn't know who it is my DC writes "sorry my new phone doesn't recognize your number. Who's that?" and no one gets offended.

CheezyWeez, you sound exactly like me! That's the sort of response I would have sent and I do think the "context" is all in the smiley!

I once sent a text to the wrong person and we had a text flirty banter session that led all the way to the 'shall we meet' conversation. I didn't.

It can happen. I'd personally want more wit than, are you fit.

I agree with PP, how on earth would he know it was a woman texting? Saying "Can you meet for lunch next Wednesday?" could easily have been a man couldn't it?

I think there is a lot of missing information here.

On the basis of what OP has said, I don't think I would like it.

Am I the only one who thinks it sounds like he was insinuating he would continue to text the stranger if he found out they were attractive?? Huge alarm bells, I'd go mad if it was me. A jokey reply would be "maybe if you're buying LOL :P" but what he said was downright creepy under the majority of contexts

You're friend may have knew it was your DH or not but obviously felt uncomfortable enough to screen shot it and send it. Either out of concern or simply "look at this creep who replied haha"

No, Eminado, that wasn't a "bit of a strong statement" or mocking. It was a recognition of reality. There are far too many people on here trying to ramp up the drama on the basis of no evidence.

" It was a recognition of reality"

What on earth do you mean by this?
Why do you make such broad statements?
Lots of people have calmly stated that they wouldnt like this, me included. Are we outside reality? Whose?

In our phones, all messages between either one of us and a person are saved together in one block iyswim. Could you have a look at his phone to check. If it was innocent, he probably didn't delete it. If he deleted it, it would show a sign of guilt.
You could just innocently ask your friend if she had any more contact with the 'mystery texter' and see if he persisted in wanting to flirt or meet up.

I had a bloke trying it on when he mis-texted me once. I made the rookie mistake of revealing I'm a woman , and he wouldn't leave me alone. Took my non reply as invitation to send a personal description of himself and "joke" that his wife didn't know. What an ass. Felt sorry for the wife, if that's all it took for her dh to try to flirt with another woman. (He even texted me a new year's message; I can't block numbers on my phone and haven't contacted my service provider about it)

Eminado, you seem to be having trouble understanding what I actually posted, as you appear to be answering an assertion I haven't made.

Gruntled People have different opinions on what is "a joke" and what is not. Your assertion that anyone who thinks her DH was flirting is trying to ramp up drama is dismissive and misguided. People have a different opinion to you, it doesn't make them wrong. It's up to the OP to decide how she feels.

Your DH sounds like a creep.

I don't think there's anything to it. I bet you he was with a friend or two he says he getting texts about lunch from some strange woman and his mate says "ask her if she's fit". They all laugh, he sends the message. Boys being daft. Banter!

I think this is an ill conceived joke.

I think she had no idea.

The best thing is to say to her... Mystery solved, and laugh about it, then I hear you asked my best friend if she's fit..., and tease him

I genuinely don't think there is anything sinister. It takes a special brand of bitch to pull that off.