Husband shouts swears and calls me names in front of kids!

[Amber83]

Hi
I'm new to this so please be kind!
I've been with my husband for 6 years, I have 2 children from my previous marriage and we have 2 together. He has always had a short temper and acts like a child when things don't go his way. My real concern is how this is affecting my kids, he will get annoyed if I say or do something he doesn't like it if I disagree with him, he quickly raises his voice, then begins swearing and calling me names like stupid fu*ing bitch and tell me to go f*k myself in front of them. I am constantly telling him to stop swearing and he just seems to let rip more. When he has calmed down he will admit he shouldn't do it in front of kids but then quickly blames me for pissing him off.

My question is should I give up on another marriage and break up another home?

Thanks for reading X

My god this just gave me chills. That was powerful, thank you.

WTF? Are you relishing this?

Noooo! It was a powerful message to someone who is also worrying about her kids witnessing these things! Which mine are. Sorry for being vague. Didn’t want to say.

I went through the same thing. Chance after chance nothing changed. I got blamed for his behavior every time.. he never said he was sorry because In his twisted mind he thinks he never did anything wrong. I split up with him and he makes co-parenting impossible. We are now going through a custody case and he's not going to make it easy. He's being spiteful rather than thinking about what's best for our son. He kept our son from me for 12 consecutive days with only allowing me to talk to him on the phone twice totalling less than 5 minutes talk time. I convinced him to let me see my son, he was noticably sick and extremely exhausted. Turns out my son had a stomach virus. His dad didn't even notice. I've been keeping track of texts and conversations with my ex so I can show the judge come court day in a couple weeks. We live in Nevada which is a 50/ 50 state. I'm hoping to get primary custody.
Definitely get away from your husband. It's what's best for the kids. They will grow up and mimic what they saw growing up. Save them

I apologise and I'm sorry you're going through such a tough time, too. I hope you can find a way out 🫂

This man has broken your home. Calling an end to it will mend it.

Zombie thread from 2016!!

I just read a book called The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. I'd highly recommend it.

ARGH!!!

It's absolutely abuse. Once you leave you need to have a long chat with the eldest 2 about how you left him because his behaviour was not acceptable. So they know that 'this until how relationships should look and I didn't want you growing up thinking its normal to talk to people like he does or, to stay around people who talk to you that way'.

Discuss things like bullying, consent and respect with them.

Good on you for deciding to get free.