How do I stop being a stubborn twat?

[FrostyNipples]

Same old rows.

DP is just as stubborn as me (not excusing my shit behaviour at all) and we regularly like clockwork every three and a half weeks have a silly row which I escalate to ridiculous proportions.

No violence just nasty, spiteful stuff.

I need to learn how to do this, I love my DP and know I'm being ridiculous (on this occasion I have thrown him out because he accidentally walked dog poo on a rug ) it gets to a point in the argument where I lose all perspective, over react and it spirals.

I have ASD (plus massive huge PMT which has become almost unbearable the last couple of years) and know that these meltdowns can be managed, I just don't know where to bloody start.

Help me find some way of managing this please!

Maybe your mantra should be 'not wrong but different' even if you don't REALLY think it

My ex-mil was like this, completely irrational when she had pmt and huge rages. She used to take oil of primrose which helped a bit, but not much. She is now in her 60's and much better than she was, although can still get het up about things pretty quickly.