Found number on husbands phone

[NA200712]

So it's Christmas Day and me and the husband have ended it with an argument. We have a great relationship most of the time with a few arguments here and there like most people. He's an amazing dad and is very affectionate and I know I can count on him. I can't imagine my life without him.

I don't know why I did it but I looked at his contacts on his phone, he doesn't have many, but a woman's name caught my eye. I know he went to high school with her. I've asked him about it and he's said he has no idea how the number got in his phone and that he hasn't spoken to her in years. To me this is absolute bullshit, how does a number just appear in your phone, it doesn't. So at this point I'm wondering why is he lying to me. It's just a number, it's not like I've found messages or anything to her. I just asked why her number was in his phone. So now I'm very paranoid. Do I believe him? He's very stubborn so if he is lying he isn't going to give up the truth he won't want to be caught out looking a twat for lying.

He's gone mad for me looking at his phone which I can't blame him for but if he was to look at mine I don't think I'd care, I've nothing to hide. He's turned it all round on me saying I don't trust him etc so now I look the bad one. Am I in the wrong?

My phone has loads of contacts o didn't put there.

If dh asked me why I would guess Facebook, if that not it I would keep guessing.

When I get a new phone I copy all contacts over. In fact my phones does it itself because it's connected to my email. I don't personally transfer each one. Those days are long gone.

Fwiw if dh snooped through my phone I would be angry. I haven't cheated or flirted over text.

It's my phone. I am allowed some privacy.

If he questioned why some numbers are in my phone, I can only guess. Still doesn't prove anything.

OP you are right to let this go and work on your own issues. Pp is right, if a woman typed that her dh was behaving like you are, it would be called controlling.

If you trust him and have a good marriage you need to sort out why you feel the way you do, over a contact in his phone.

Facebook syncs and so does outlook. I have loads of old MSN contacts that my phone won't let me delete in my phonebook as well. If my dp (which I don't have) did what you did I'd be thinking about leaving you.

brand there is an app called "spring cleaning" that deletes those contacts for good, worked on my iPhone.

It's likely that it's from an email, or Twitter, or possibly Facebook if she's changed her name. You don't really have an admission that he put it in his phone, he just doesn't know how it got there so said he "must have" copied it across.

I'm guessing that if you looked through his contacts, you had time to check his messages and calls first? On a Samsung, any texts or calls to her would show in the log. Mine goes back four months and I use my phone a lot!

I think letting it go is the right decision.