Separated. Living together. Would like to reconcile

[spottyman]

Hi. 1st time poster.
Married 2.5 years. No kids of our own. She has 2. 5 & 7
My wife told me 3 weeks ago that she no longer wants to be in a relationship with me. She has moved to another room.
But she is being really nice. If you were to sit in the room with us you wouldn't know anything is wrong. Exept for there is obviously no affection.
We talk. Laugh. Do family stuff. Get on really well but she says she's had enough.
I desperately want her back. What should I do? All the advice I can find is to be strong. Let her do whatever she needs to do and if it's meant to be it will.
I'm not begging or trying to get her to stay. I don't want to come accross as needy or pushy. She said she is going to leave but doesn't know when. I'm so confused.

I forget she has children. Who is looking after them while she's drinking in her room?

They are with their father until tomorrow.

It seems highly likely what happened was she was planning to leave and move in with an OM who has changed his mind.

She still wants to leave you...

That's fine. I just wish she would bloody go then.

But she would have gone if she was going to. She has had a child free weekend to look for a home and she has spent it 'at her mother's' and then drinking in bed.

What are you going to do about the situation?

I suggest getting some support for you in dealing with the fallout of this for you emotionally.

To be fair, since the house is the children's home, it would be better for them if you moved out. It may feel unfair but they are innocent in all this.

And getting information about your rights re; housing, contact with your step DC etc

I'm not doing enough. Keeping out of her way!
Got to see a solicitor or something. This is just madness.

You can usually see solicitors for a free initial assessment. Unless you have instructed one you can see a number of them until you find one that you like.

You can find a solictor on the law society's website here; www.lawsociety.org.uk/find-a-solicitor

You can get advice on contact with the children from coram.

Literally just found out her brother is kicking his girlfriend and 3 kids out! Maybe she can go live with him

Well then suggest it to her.
Her brother sounds a real delight as well.
Makes me wonder what sort of upbringing they had?

Wrt to the brother, is he the father of those 3 children?