How to get in touch

[needingsomehelp1]

Hi, new to this so but I wondered if anyone can please give me some advice - long long and unpleasant story but I separated from wife and two children, then 6 and 10 - horrendous situation but basically they moved to New Zealand and I have had no contact with them for 14 years - I have recently seem picture on Facebook of my son, and want to make contact but am petrified as I was the villain I just know they will freak and not want contact - but I have to try. Anyone out there got idea son the best approach - so I simply Facebook or seek some other way - would appreciate help.

Unfortunately, I don't think the op has the mindset to see it from his DCs point of view.

Interesting timing o/p. Anything to do with your estranged kids now being over the age of 18 and not entitled to child support? Is that why you've 'suddenly' decided to try and get in touch with them? Or perhaps you're facing a sad and lonely old age with no grown-up kids around to look after you? Maybe its a combination of both?
No sympathy I'm afraid. I had an ex just like you. Like you, he's rapidly ageing and very apologetic. But its too late.