Step inside it's the Dating Thread 93

[SweetPotato1]

Looks like this needed to be kicked off again..

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread

Hi ladies I've been enjoying reading about your exploits (I posted a couple of pages back).

After joining POF , on the first night I emailed one guy commenting glibly about his profile. (I wasn't sure if protocol!) but we have been chatting ever since. No red flags so far and we have switched to imessaging.

He suggested meeting but due to scheduling we can't meet until next Sunday.

Is that leaving it too late?

He is also still using the app but is not 'online all the time' but from reading this thread, this is a common occurrence??

It is common, but doesn't mean he's on the look out, I am first dating in Sunday, but only half hearted logging on to sites. Mostly to eye up photos of impending date.

good plan! Forearmed is forewarned and all that!

Are you just sticking to a coffee? I'm unsure what to suggest. Ohh what a minefield!

No, we are going for wine. I am at butterflies level of nervous as he seems so great, so coffee wasn't going to cut it...!

tanya I wish I was going for wine, calm the nerves a bit but MrFireman (!) is driving through to see me Sunday is really not far away!!

Waving not really, no one else is floating my boat atm. Good idea being proactive. Maybe I should message more people!

I haven't heard from H since Tuesday. He sounded normal then but I finished our text exchange,and nothing since. I'mnervous now. really hope we are going out tonight. :-/ Nerve-racking.

waving so you're going for a Sunday date then?! Have you nailed that one down as a definite yet? You were busy friday, he was busy saturday. Sunday is the first available dday.

I agree about coffee dates. One 30 minute coffee with somebody. It's never going to loosen either of you up. After 30 minutes how else can you feel but ''well, nice to have met you'' as you stand up and shake hands.

ps, what I mean is, I don't think Sunday means ''lack of interest'' in iteself.

Urgh, had a message from some guy in Dubai saying 'yes I want to know more (disclaimer: my profile says message me if you want to know more) and also to see your children'

Creepy as fuck or is it just me?

Creepy as. When I first dabbled in OLD, I got messaged by a seemingly nice 30 year old 150 miles away from where I am. That seemed off for a start (I am 36), the rather than ask about me, he very quickly asked the ages of my children. . Blocked immediately.

I think it speaks volumes that I suggested coffee date to TS and immediately wine with Bee...

Im stressing. I sent h a msg on whatsapp. Delivered. Seen. No reply.
My tummy feels a bit sick.

Hate this.
i need to de-escalate.

Tanyadm yes good instinct!

Don't stress, lovely! He's maybe working, or something, or can't reply just right now? Go get some camomile tea, or whatever works for you, and RELAX. It will be fine.

I agree with WhatsApp, I'm not giving out my number until a date is set up. I just swapped numbers with Mr French and Googled his phone number (glad I did!) to reveal a very odd forum called topix. One girl OP said she was looking for an older man for sexting and she was 26. He kindly provided his number for her. He seemed so sweet, not sleazy at all, great judge I am! Clearly he has a dark side, now do I block him or carry on regardless? Definitely him, he gives his age. It's put me off.

Prizey, block! Why are there so many oddballs?!

I hate it when you finally pluck up the courage to message someone, then afterwards you see they've looked at your profile but not replied
I know I'm as guilty as the rest but it's a horrible feeling. I need to toughen up and lower my standards!

Yes tanya it's a blocker isn't it? Ffs....back to swiping mode.

phew, he's messaged. But I can't bear to read it. Maybe he's cancelling but at least he's not ghosting. I'll have a cup of tea before I face reading it.

Open it 314! I can't bare the suspense.

Still on!

Heart unclenches

this feeling!!! can I bear it?

Woo hoo!

Aww, have an amazing time, 314, just ENJOY YOURSELF!

Hi everyone

waving what happened with soho???

nomore keeping all fingers and toes crossed for tonight!! Have fun and report back!

I've had a little bit of a set back. Saw MrTree yesterday evening and had a bombshell dropped on me. Summary is he acted as if he was single and he isn't. This was something like the 6th date over 2 months and he's not been honest for that long. The good news is I hadn't slept with him or gotten too involved. The not so good news is that it's really knocked my confidence around dating. Jesus, who thinks its ok to not be honest about complicated personal circumstances?
I think I may just take a break from it all while I try and figure this stuff out.