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Worried new boyfriend drugged me

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spankingnewme · 06/12/2015 20:04

Sorry this is a bit random, been seeing new fella, like him lots on same page for lots stuff he's expanding my experiences on lots of things in bedroom , I've said no to some things all fine, enjoying some things I've done with him I've always said no to in the past. Anyway here's the weird bit, last night we had few drinks like we always do tbh ( I will be on the dry thread wen I sort this out!!) but anyway I went from feeling hammered and going to bed together as usual to suddenly finding myself fuckin him in a strange position totally uninhibited and feeling really odd! Then coming and doing the same again in another position, it just was odd, and I have a horrible feeling that my Mr perfect slipped something in my drink, I'm gutted if he did but I've taken drugs in my younger days and know the difference, I can't imagine feeling like I felt last night off a bottle of wine!

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SmallLegsOrSmallEggs · 08/12/2015 20:18

he is just quite insistent on things he likes and wants to do,

This is not good though. Not good at all.
If someone suggests something you don't want to do then you are perfectly within your rights to say you may like that but I do not so I will not be doing it.
If they keep pestering you they are to be avoided. If then then decide those things ate very important to them they ate free to leave the rs but they are not allowed to coerce you into doing them.

You should read the cup of tea analogy.

Any decent bloke respects that.
Sex is something you do with someone not to them.

Especially this early on this is worrying.

I think this is probably what is setting alarm bells ringing.

spankingnewme · 09/12/2015 02:36

Is the cup of tea thing where unconscious people don't want tea? I've read that agree totally. And I've never felt pushed into anything with him or like I've done something I regret or didn't want to. It's more I do want to try new things with him, for some reason more than anyone else before. So I don't think he's doing anything wrong there.....but maybe the alarm bells are because I don't know just yet how far he will take it..

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RoomForASmallOne · 09/12/2015 03:05

Hey OP
I think we had similar youths.
MDMA used to make me much less inhibited.
An ex definitely used to secretly double up what I asked for in order to make me more compliant.

Hope you're ok, I totally agree with PPs about listening to your gut.

Fuckitfay · 09/12/2015 03:21

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Lweji · 09/12/2015 05:45

I think there is a reason your spider senses are tingling. It's his insistence and how you felt then.
We have instincts for a reason and we should trust them more often.

Even if he didn't do anything to you, deep down you think he could and would. Is that someone you want to be vulnerable with?

category12 · 09/12/2015 08:10

Bill Cosby

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