Dear MNers, am just starting the painful process of splitting with my P. We have a wonderful 10month ds.
I am currently at my mothers as had a recent op so cannot look after ds alone. My xp is a wonderful dad and adores our ds and is very competent and capable of looking after ds.
What is reasonable re xp's access for ds? He would happily have sole custody (obviously that is not an option) I have read and understood (though could be wrong) on similiar threads that overnight stays are not recommended with children under 2. However I would feel uncomfortable not letting him have ds overnight as he had done recently with me being in hospital. I was breastfeeding (formula if I went out), however due to op this has tailed down, am bf when I can though ds is having formula too. I am aiming to go back to work 4 days a week in March.
What can I expect maintance wise? Is it 15% of net earnings (we are not married)? Also my xp has given up work to start a new business. He does however have several properties which TBF are mortgaged to the hilt. So equity wise - rich enough but income wise poor - How would maintanance be calculated? Again I want to be fair.
Hope someone can help. I am reluctant to start with solicitors, mediators at this point as I won't be entitled to legal aid and my xp is a litigation lawyer and I am not expecting an easy time.
Thanks for reading.