My son said he wanted to commit suicide today

[derxa]

How can I help him?

I can only imagine.
Problem is if someone doesn't want to talk then it's so hard to make them. But in my (all be it limited) experience it's what they need. But maybe this will help him realise he needs help. Not easy when you come from 'silent and strong' stock!

Yes I've been trying to get him to talk for a long time. Yet another reality check for me about what's important in life. My brother died young and I've had BC It's just been one thing after another

I almost "Oh Hun'd" you then instead have an unmumsnetty hug. Sometimes life feels like it's just one thing after another. Maybe your DS has bottled a lot more up than he's said. But he's safe with your DH and if you and your other DSs can get there soon then he has a lot of love yo help him through this.

I don't mind hun Maybe he was badly affected by my illness. I've been ridiculously over protective of my sons due to what happened to my brother

No suggestions, OP, but I hope that the fact that he is opening up and talking to your DH is a good sign.

yakari You're someone I'll never meet but you don't know how much our chat has meant to me tonight

you're only stopping me overload my credit card with online Christmas shopping! I should be thanking you!

Get your family gathered up close as soon as you can. If your DS can talk to you and his brothers brilliant. If he needs a third party then so be it. Strong and silent only works for so long.

And 24 is nothing, the lad has so many years of doing whatever inspires and makes him happy irrespective of masters or uni's

Spend away It's only money Your advice is good

Atenco That's what I feel as well

Ha my DS only 9 wants some obscure tshirt from Amazon that won't ship from the US to where we are in Asia. Whilst I appreciate it is nothing on the scale of what we're discussing in between chatting with you, I'm whacking the keyboard in despair!

Bless him Is the T shirt only available from one source? I'm useless at Internet buying

I have no suggestions or advice but am glad DS is with your DH and will have his brothers with him soon. Very unmumsnetty huns and hugs derxa

Kiwi Thanks hun I never say hun in real life

Sitting here googling like crazy I'm sure it will all work out, but I sure you know what it's like when they ask for that one thing...

So tell me about your Christmas - will you all be home? Or will you need to come back to the farm?

Me neither derxa, there's something about Mumsnet that makes me want to say it (maybe it's the latent rebel bottled up inside of me ) I am liberal with my hugs though.

Christmas will be at home. It's usually the best day of the year just the boys me and DH. We cook a massive turkey dinner and slob out together
I love it Then we usually go back to Scotland for Hogmanay

there's something about Mumsnet that makes me want to say it
Exactly. Are you a Kiwi?

Very jealous of Hogmanay in Scotland. Lived there for most of my late teens and twenties and still miss it.

There is a massive bonfire in the middle of a little market town. People meet up and get plastered

What is Hogmanay? I have never heard of it although a bonfire and alcohol sounds pretty much perfect.

New Year's Eve CatMilkMan

Ahhh, thanks! I wish I knew more Scottish words.

Go to Scotsnet!

Bonfires! Wow - I was mainly in Dundee and Glasgow, we'd have had car fires but no bonfires

So I must go pick up my monsters from school. Derxa my dear 'Hun' wishing you a little bit of sleep if you can and safe travels back home tomorrow. Sounds like a family Christmas and a roaring Hogmanay may be good timing for you and DS and hope he gets all the support he needs.
Chat soon

yakari Hug your 'monsters a little bit tighter today. Thanks again, hun.