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What's the deal here?

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TheDetective · 26/11/2015 21:36

I met a man 3 months ago, through a group I attend. 5 weeks ago we started talking and meeting up outside the group.

We have both declared we have feelings for the other.
He calls most days, there is certainly communication each day through one means or another. Mostly phone calls - he seems to prefer this to texting etc.
He comes to my house 2/3 evenings a week, and we meet up in the day time 1/2 times a week.
Despite the above, nothing has actually happened between us. He has actively said he is fighting his feelings because he wants to take things slowly. Which is fine. But I think we may have different ideas of slow!
Can I have others opinions on this situation? I'm very wary of men in general after a horrific break up with my soon to be ex husband.

If it helps to add - I'm 31, he's 39. We live near each other. I have 3 children, 13, 3 and 5 months. His son is 3. We have met each other's children and spend time with them together as you would with friends etc on soft play trips, museum trips etc.

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TheDetective · 27/11/2015 16:46

Yes. Exactly that. He wants to. But isn't. I want to and I've said that. I've said friends is fine, but I do want more.

We've had a bit of a tiff today anyway. So I might be angsting over nothing.

I think I'm going to set it even straighter. I need to wait 2 weeks, as he has a court case regarding his contact with his child coming up. I will wait until that has passed so he is in a better frame of mind.

But after that, fuck it. Either move in or on.

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