People who met their DH after 30 - tell me your stories? Feeling low today, all my close friends married by 27...

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I posted earlier about not having had much luck with dating this year. I'm 30.

Can anyone tell me their stories (hopefully happy ones!) about meeting their DH?

All, and I mean all, my close friends married between ages 24-28. I need some positive stories!

Meh. (!)

They're morons.

They get to near-30 and alluvasudden they have mystic powers RL be happily ever after!?

Fuck'em. Up the arse. Sideways.

HTH

NB: I refer to the op's IRL friends ...

At my 30th birthday, I was having an absolutely crap time with my exDP. By my 31st, I was single and having a wonderful time surrounded by friends. In the next couple of years I had a few little flings, which I could not see going anywhere, and just thought I should get used to be single. Then I moved city and decided to try internet dating as something to do and to meet people. First date was my now husband, whom I moved in with a few months later, married at 35, had our first dc at 37 and have just had another at 40. He is the most wonderful husband and father, but I have to say, he didn't look all that "good on paper" when I met him: was living with his mother, etc. so I guess I would say: stay open minded and focus on what really matters: a kind, empathetic, caring guy that you get on well with.

I met my DH in the January and I was turning 31 in the May.

I'd been married before and was divorced had been in two serious relationships(including my first marriag)both of those relationships were abusive in different ways.

My DH was married but getting divorced,he'd also been treated very badly.
I had 4DC and he had none.

We've been together nearly 10 years now and have 5DC,very happily married.I get on really well with his family and he gets on really well with mine.

He's Dad to all 5DC as far as were all concerned and his family treat all 5DC the same.

It's worked out really well for us and there's an age gap I'm the older one.Everything should really have been stacked against us but he's the nicest man I've ever none and he's treated me and all of our 5DC the best we've ever been treated and he says the same about his life with me and our 5DC.

Go out with Hazel's son of course. :o

These stories are so lovely!

I love these stories!

Yes it can happen. My friends who got married post-30 actually have the best weddings. True fact.

I had my first date with my now DH a month before my thirtieth, I'm now 34 with two gorgeous wee boys. Sometimes it happens quickly.

I was married in my early 20 and long-divorced by the time I was 30. Looking back I was far too young to get married! I met my current partner when I was 32. It was an absolute chance meeting, I'd given up on ever meeting anyone that I wanted to be with. We got married this summer and I have never been happier.

please can I extend this thread and ask for stories of anyone who met their partners post 45?! Please!

xx

FlorisApple And I quote-

"a kind, empathetic, caring guy that you get on well with"

Is that what most of the female board members would say their looking for?.

Or are there other factors that are more important such as age, looks wealth etc?.

Just curious.

I met mine at 32 on Match.com after a series of disappointing dates. I'd almost reached the point where I thought "this just isn't going to happen for me, I don't know why I bother!"

We married when I was 36 and I couldn't be happier with DH. Three of my closest friends all got married the same year and were all of a similar age.

Many of my friends who had married in their 20s are divorced by now. I was engaged in my 20s and was so glad I didn't go through with that marriage - he was EA and I had a narrow escape - I'm so glad I didn't settle for second best out of fear of being left on the shelf.

Met my first DH at 23, married at 28, he left me for one of our friends 2 weeks after my 30th birthday. I had a few flings, a rebound guy who was a friend of a friend which was a disaster, and then met my now DH online. He was also divorced and in his late thirties. We got married when I was pregnant with our first DC. We are still very happy 8 years later! I never gave up on love even though at times it seemed that it was impossible to find happiness. Keep an open heart OP and it will happen for you!

I was married at 27. Currently getting divorced! Please don't write yourself off or panic! Enjoy the freedom to live without compromise and to explore all kinds of new adventures. Keep creating opportunities to meet new people but mainly just focus on enjoying life

I met my new partner online. I thought I would never meet anyone new with two small kids under my feet so decided to dabble in online dating. I was pretty put off at first and was ready to give it up but then met lovely DP

Didn't have anything lasting beyond 3 months until I was 36 and my 14 year long relationship started, despite my being a single mother with an 11 year old. When that ended, I met the love of my life. I was 50, he was nearing 60. Sadly, cancer killed him 3 years later, but I've been with the bloke for 2 years now and have never had a more caring partner. I am 58, he is 51.

I had my 30th birthday 2 days after my younger sister's wedding. I had reconciled myself to being single forever.

Both myself and my best friend met out partners post 30.

Myself - had known dp for years and had a secret crush on him. Bumped into him 6 months post horrendous break up, and plucked up the courage to ask him to lunch. We're expecting our first baby in the spring

Best mate - met her dp at work, wasn't her usual type but she decided to go on a date as he made her laugh till she cried. The rest is history and this is the happiest I have ever seen her.

Focus on you and have faith that it will happen when its supposed to.

Hazel

Give us an idea what area of the country you're in and I imagine an orderly (if you're lucky) queue of single MN women might form. You could host a blind date party and play Cilla! Only kidding.

I'm 33 and single. I met a man who absolutely seemed to be the man of my dreams in the summer and then he ghosted me. I was (still am a bit) gutted.

Before I met him I was genuinely very content single. I have a very full social life with wonderful friends and I have a lot of fun doing various outdoorsy pursuits, going to dinner parties, nice days out etc.

I want children though and I've decided to prioritise this over meeting a man. Controversial I know, but having children is so important to me. I can't keep waiting just in case Mr Right appears and risk missing my chance to have children.

Exh met at 31. Married 33, 2 kids. Divorced at 37.

New DP met at 44. Brilliant. Glad we met older as we are so much wiser and less likely to fuck it up!

Seems that there's getting to be a three part marriage cycle. 20 to 30 odd split up then 30 to 40 ish then like me the 60 onwards seem to be the ones doing the most divorcing these days according the the div statistics;!.

INeedNewShoes I know someone who's in the same boat is you absolutely brooding for children but shes urber critical about the man who's going the be dad!.

Not me (I was 24 - too young, in retrospect)...but almost all of my close friends.

Best Friend 1 - met her partner at 34. She is 39 now, due with their second child any day now .

BF 2 - met her partner at 35, now 40 and happily married with with a 2 yr old.

BF 3 - met her partner at 37, now 43 and they have a gorgeous 4 yr old and are a lovely, happy couple.

BF 4 - met her partner at 32, now 39 and expecting her fourth child

30 is no age!

At 31 and reasonably happy single I'm still enjoying these stories.

Justaboy honestly looks and money never came into it for me and I have been asked out by male models and I once dated someone who was very well off and I've also been asked out by a Prince from another country not the UK.

I'd worry if someone only ever relys on they're looks that it might not say that much for they're personality and money is just money it's a material object it doesn't make someone any more or any less than anyone else.

No judging from over here INeedNewShoes. I was all ready to do that when I met DH.

Getting married young will end in divorce IMO. Men are usually too immature to fully understand the implications before they hit mid 30s anyway.

Isn't there a song lyric that says 'settling down in your early twenties sucks more blood than a back street dentist..'.

Almost all my friends married in their mid-30s. In our 20s we were building careers, travelling, having fun. No one was in a hurry to give that up.

OP: its a myth that everyone who is married with kids is blissfully happy. The divorce rate is only half the picture, many more people are stuck in deeply unhappy relationships.
Its hard if you really want children, I do sympathise with that, but please don't see marriage/kids as the only route to happiness.

HustleRussell Immature?, well perhaps some but isn't it more to do with how people change with age over that time band?, seems to me once people hit their late 20's then they are who they are and don't alter that much from that time onwards

OK a bit of a broad brush approach and there are exceptions, but seems from this thread that marrying up from 30 onwards seems to be a more stable set-up then say 20 ish?.