Social Services Referal from police from one off incident

[meganmarie2604]

Two weeks ago me and partner had a domestic, which ended up in shouting and me being pushed to the floor. The police were called as our 16 month old son was present & saw what happened. Tonight we have the social services coming round to see myself and son without my partner being present & we are really worried as to what will be said etc. This is the first time the police have ever been called, as well as the referral to the social services, & we have been told that the social services will give us an ultimatum of either separate or have our son taken off us. Can somebody please help us on this situation as we both are petrified of what will and wont be said. Does anybody know the procedure & if this being the first and only occasion, whether they will still say the above about splitting or having our son taken away. This isn't something that happens regularly and was a one off occurrence where things just got too heated. Please no remarks as we know the situation shouldnt have happened in the first place, especially in front of our son.

Speaking as a social worker this is NOT a section 47 investigation. You do seem more anxious about a social worker visiting than over what your partner did. The majority of social services work is supporting families. They will undertake an assessment to see whether you need support. As it is not a S47 u would have to consent to other agencies being contacted

Be honest and upfront.

Good luck

OP.

Ive only scanned the thread. So apologies if I have missed this.

Has your other half apologised profusely?
Is he going to undertake any sort of counselling over what happened here?

You are unfortunately minimising what has happened IMO. Potentially because you are in shock but also because the alternative (you separating) is unbearable a prospect to you emotionally.

I'm not suggesting by any means that this means you should split. I don't think you'd listen if I did say it. But here's the thing, without him understanding what happened that night, how is he ever going to ensure he NEVER does that again?

I’m new to this but could use some advice from anyone that has been in a similar situation.

I have received a visit from social services due to an incident that happened between myself and my partner and I called the police. The kids weren’t in the house at the time and we argued and things got broken and some pushing etc. This has all been the result of both drinking and when the police came he was away and I was intoxicated. I didn’t make an official statement nor press any charges but the police have taken this on to persue themselves as domestic abuse! I have since had two calls from domestic abuse, a visit from the police and now social services all because the police took over. My question is how do I make this all go away? It was something over nothing and things got out of hand, my kids weren’t present and we both said and done things we shouldn’t and wouldn’t of not drinking to excess. I have told social services and the police that the relationship is over and as it stands it is but they have said if I do get into a relationship with him again then they will do regular visits?? Why is this the case and if all the police stuff is put to rest then will o be able to resume the relationship again in the future with it being no business of social services? Please don’t judge and many thanks I’m advance for any advice given x

@chaz1609

You need to start your own thread for advice.

You were scared and threatened enough to call the police. Don’t minimise it.

SS need to make sure your child is protected and they aren’t if they are in a home where their parent is in a volatile relationship.

How do I start a thread? It was a snap decision to call the police, I didn’t feel threatened and was more want to be a bitch which I know isn’t right. I understand that as have a role to keep children safe but as I said the kids weren’t there and I am not in a violent relationship or in any danger this was a one off incident that we both were to blame and drink played a massive part in the actions