My boyfriend and I have been together for for a little over a year. We met when he was sent to the US when he was sent by his company to head up a project for year. We meet, feel in love and everything has been really great. He had to move back to London three months ago, and whilst we originally were going to the do the long distance thing until I could find work in London and move there, we both missed each other too much and my boyfriend encouraged me to move in with him now instead waiting to move. I arrived in London almost two weeks ago, and whilst I lived in the UK as a child (I have dual citizenship) my family and all of my friends are based in the US, so the only person I know here is my boyfriend. I am normally very independent, and I have been working hard to make new friends and find a new job in London. But the transition has been hard, I miss my friends and am finding it difficult to find a connection to this city.
The problem I am having is that my boyfriend doesn't seem to want to include me in his life here. Besides going on a couple long walks with me, my boyfriend hasn't done anything to show me around the city, he hasn't taken me for dinner or drinks, I've basically done nothing but be in his flat for the past week and half. This past weekend was my first weekend in the London and my boyfriend went out with friends both Saturday and Sunday night (staying out until 3 am both nights), he didn't invite me to come along and didn't seem to care that I would be left sitting around his flat all night whilst he went out and had a good time.
On Monday I explained to him that I felt really hurt that he hadn't invited me, I told him that I think its great that he has alone time with his friends but that I am feeling alone and would really appreciate it if he included me more (I have made plans to join a book club, I have signed up for cooking classes, etc so that I can make new friends and feel a connection to the city, but until then it would be nice for him to include me a little more and at least show me around). He seemed to understand, he gave me a hug and told me that he would definitely put me first and that he could't wait to introduce me to his friends here and show me around. But then tonight, he came home and announced that he was invited to go out by a friend and promptly left.
I am now sitting here completely livid. I felt like I had explained how I was feeling on Monday and how hard I am finding the adjustment. I don't understand how he could just leave me, knowing that I am alone all day and am desperate to get out and do something fun. I feel like if he really cared about me, he would want to include more in his life here.
Also, its important to point out that he was the one who really pushed me to move here now, I wanted to wait until I had time to find a job.
What does everyone think? Am I overreacting? If you were in my position what would you do?
thanks!