ReadFox OK without boring everyone here this is what happened.
A while ago i made a reference to a woman's age that i might be involved with it went like, someone 40 to 50 that i might be get involved with, then i said OK no great shakes take it to be 50 to 60 it wasn't critical. However i have subsequently come to discover that there's a very sore point where with women of say 30 to 40 being expected to be OK with going out or meeting up with men substantially older. Fox made a post saying along the lines of "why do older men feel their entitled to a younger woman or a woman much younger then themselves". Which in itself is fair comment.
I suggested that perhaps she might try to meet up with someone older and she said that she'd set her age limit a bit higher then what she was going to accept. OK that's fine, that's OK that's her prerogative to set that wherever age she likes.
I also upset another poster with a similar posting. Now at that time i did not realise that this situation was the way it was having no experience of what goes on with on-line dating and the male female aspects of that. Now after reading many posts I can now see that this is a very sensitive area for a lot of women and indeed there are a large number of posts detailing that very issue and i have apologised for that.
To chuck further petrol on the bonfire i made it known that i was involved in a may December marriage where there was a 20 year age gap. That was dissolved after 20 years of being together and that was not due to the age gap but issues with country as she was a European national and her profession.
I have had fox refer to her as a "mail order bride" which was totally uncalled for.
I have been insulted and called an "old Goat" which again is also offensive.
As contributors will see this was again taken out of context re the post about the Folk music group where she jumped at me alleging the old goat again and as that happened around 1972 or 3 there was not any relevance to that particular meeting. As she says might i date someone from that time, yes that's possible they will be around their late fifties now and if all else was OK then that is indeed possible.
My stance of this is as i see it is that age isn't the be all and the end all. What is the point of being together with someone just because of her age?. That can imply that i at 64 years i might be with someone of 40 years, or in that area. I ask what would be the point of that if you just did not get on with each other?. I would prefer to be with someone who i had interests in common with and we got on. Simple as that. Anything wrong with that concept?.
I do not intend to bring that up again unless someone asks like they have done on other threads such as do large age gap marriages / relationships work etc. I have been very careful to avoid the age issue and not cause upset now that i am very aware of the sensitivities on the matter.
I do however hope that Fox manages to find someone suitable for her and in that I wish her well, but would ask that she does not take anything i have written out of its original context.
Thank you.