Where do you meet decent men?

[Confused2015xxx]

In pubs they all seem creeps just after one thing.
Joined tinder and nobody speaks and the ones that do are creeps.
Where are the nice guys at?

Comic Conventions.
Fishing clubs.
train spotters rail enthusiasts meet ups.

Just look on them as challenges.

She's not answerable to you justa'boy'

Hello Fox!, fancy meeting my old adversary here again!.

Perhaps she'd like to make her own mind up?.

Adversary? don't flatter yourself.

Nope, I know where the hills are;!

Meetup.

I do loads of things. I meet a lot of men through my hobbies - I don't want to say too much about them because it would make me recognisable. But they are mixed sex hobbies and I have a good social life from 2 of them and come into contact with a lot of men.

I also volunteer with a charity.

My job brings me into contact with a lot of people, mainly women, but also men.

I do meet men, but most of them are married and the ones that aren't are largely looking for someone younger.

I was asked out by one man I met last year, but I didn't fancy him. We are now very good friends though.

And I'm proactive. If I like someone, I will let them know I'm interested.

It doesn't happen often to be fair!

ThisIsStillFolkGirl Well thanks for those comments. I did wonder if the Folk in your name implied that you were into that. I helped run one once and all in it was great fun, never met anyone there though. One girl i did fancy turned out to be lesbian but i became quite good friends with her. I'm minded to join some sort of music appreciation society which is on the new years list of things that must be done or an operatic group. I'm useless at singing and the keyboard skills aren't good enough for performance as yet if they ever will be.

But you do come across as a very pleasant lady and i wish you well in your quest:)

oh for fucks sake. She wasn't a lesbian. No 'girl' would be interested in a 65 year old. She told you she was a lesbian and you're such a deluded old goat you believed her.

Tbh, I don't have time to do more hobbies than i do, and it's not just me, I don't know anyone who has got together with someone they've met at one of these hobbies. Most of the men are married.

I have a friend that does one hobby with me. She is busy with different hobbies every night of the week and works with men she's also less cynical than me but she's been single for about a decade because she just hasn't met anyone suitable (single).

We both get hit on by married men plenty though...

Sorry Fox it was 1973 AD that was, not BC as you'd wish.

I also met her partner, they formed a Folk music duo.

ThisIsStillFolkGirl well OK there're married men but you must be attracting them. One day the right single one will turn up.

Still dining out on stories that are 40+ years old. God would you date a woman as old as your stories............

Readfox ^Perky polly's post is a bit naive. Just because she married (however long ago) doesn't mean it is EASY to meet men. I just met a man, seemed lovely, seemed respectful, and then after a few dates he sprung it on me, after we'd kissed, that he'd like to meet up with me, often, sleep with me, quite soon? how about that*.....

Eh? I never said it was easy I gave some suggestions that didn't include pubs. I was quite old when I married so had plenty of experience sorting out the bad and good men.

The example you have above- meeting a guy who, after a few dates, wanted sex. Errr- that's normal, no? Do you have a timescale in mind for a certain number of dates then sex is allowed?

I think DH and I slept together after a few dates. We've now been together over 30 years and he's a good man.

I was gonna say hobbies

You do hobbies

I'm all out of ideas!

Ha seriously though there are good men all over but yea in pubs or anywhere really were they are obviously just on the pull that's never really worked out for me!! Always find meetin someone in a situation like a hobby were neither party is actively looking for someone is the best way to get to know someone

So really I didn't have much advice sorry

PollyPerky, the issue for me was not a timescale! that seemed normal, it's that he wanted to have sex (I wanted to too) but that he is not even open to the possibility of having a relationship, he is so adamant that he won't have one. That's why I am keeping him at arms length now. We have arranged to meet up again, but not for two whole weeks because I want to detach a bit.

Anyway, they say you have to kiss a lot of frogs and although I've been on 5 dates since August, he's the first one I've kissed and I wouldn't call him a frog. I'll keep going for now. I guess I need to kiss another 99 before I can give up. I weed out the strangest ones before meeting up.

ReadFox Yes I might well do that if she fulfilled some other criteria.

Next?

As usual justa'boy', what you say makes no sense. I've no idea who the 'she' is and I don't care. Not ''next''. Just Fuck off.

You asked him if he'd date a woman as old as his stories. If you're going to troll someone at least remember the jabs you take otherwise the threads end up very disjointed.

ReadFox Yes you too Fox, delightful way you have with words!.

I'm not trolling. I genuinely find him extremely irritating because he is. He's also sexist and deluded and he goads people and likes to pop up on these threads reminding women to be pleasant. When 'arguing' he obfuscates and brings in red herrings and makes flawed analogies.

I hope that explains fully.

Glad you are moving on from the man who was already in a relationship and had a young baby.

Give it time, be ok being single.

When you are comfortable with yourself you are more likely to meet someone lovely IMO, no matter where it is that you meet them.

Activities is a shit way to meet people - my experience of activities is that it's mainly women who want to do organised activities.

If you are one of the minority of men who do activities you will sweep up.

Yeah thinking about it my hobby (how I met dp ) does tend to attract more men . So the odds were always in my favour