Hi, I'm in need of an advice and this is the problem. I've been with my husband for 6 years, we haven't got any children together (yet) but I do have two step-daughters. I always think about how to make things special for the girls and my husband. Birthdays, weekends they come over to our house, holiday, etc. For weeks now I have been planning the Christmas. Booking ice skating for the whole family, making Christmas Eve boxes for the girls and husband so we can have a special family time, cute presents from the girls to my husband (otherwise he would get nothing from them and be upset)...HOWEVER...during the week we had a big argument. My husband had a go at me for not doing enough house work, exercise and so on...even called me the c word. I was very upset as I think I'm tidying and cleaning all the time and yes I haven't done much exercise lately but I'm starting sessions with PT on Monday. That still doesn't give him any right to call me the c word. He's been very apologetic since, saying he didn't mean it, but I still cant forgive him. Now, what I need advice on...do I still plan all the things for Christmas? On one hand it makes me feel like an idiot for trying when all he can do is to call me lazy and useless and I just want to pack all the stuff I got so far and give it to my friend for her kids. But on the other hand I think, I still do it and hopefully he'll realise how hard I've been trying and feel bad about how he treated me. What would you do? Greatful for any advice.