Hi there,
This is weird for me, but this is a serious post and I feel it 'might' help me.
Been with my partner for 3 years or so, I am mid twenties and she is slightly younger.
Really don't know where to start..
Okay, we love each other, a lot, I think a lot of my fiancée and I can't imagine life without her, but on the occasion I find myself no longer bothered about sex with her.. and find her boring? The girl is beautiful, this is the thing but I've found that I get bored very easily with the girl I am with and have been with in the past, I hate myself for it. When I met her, she was and probably still is very innocent and didn't really know what she was doing bless her, at first I thought she would change but we've been round in circles and she just doesn't seem to 'get it' if you know what I mean?!
Issue being, and not being big headed, i do get a fair amount of female attention, my other half knows this. But i like the attention? I guess I almost welcome it. I have a very good imagination and have always enjoys a lady that can 'get me going'.
Also and I don't know if this adds to the picture at all but, this happened with my ex (although not even half the relationship this is) and the minute I broke up with her, we would be all over each other again, this went on for months, with very passionate sex and meeting up etc. what the f*ck is wrong with me? I found her attractive again all of a sudden...
Is this self control? I've spoken with male friends and many have had this or still do (variety is the spice of life) some even act on it!
I have never cheated on my partner and to be honest I like to think I'd stay strong and never would as I have had plenty of opportunity.
But I feel bad for having these thoughts about 'other people' not in a way that i like them, but in a sexual way.
Anyway, any thoughts would/might help, happy to answer any questions as well.