I'll make this short but honestly any advice would be very much appreciated.
Been with dp 5 years we have a 1 year old dc. I work part time and am starting my own business. He works 35 hours a week and is also doing a college course to get him in to uni as he wants to do a degree.
I know it sounds like we must be so busy but it's all perfectly manageable if dp were to calm down a little. Here's the problem.
For the last few weeks he's been increasingly moody, irritable and snappy. Because he's out of the house so much I've been doing 90% of the house chores. He's criticising the way I'm doing this (washing has been done quick enough, complaining he's sick of the bedroom being a mess and making comments when the baby was pointing at the goody draw "I bet you're just allowed to eat biscuits all day")
I actually was happy with how things were going. Baby only sleeps for 1 hour a day and I use this time to get some work done for my business. When he's awake we play and read and I'll do a bit of cleaning when I get the chance.
Dp comes home from college r work and goes straight up to his desk and does college work or partakes in his hobby. I feel I'm being sportive by not placing demands on him when he comes home.
Yesterday he was chatting about something his tutor had told him. I already have a degree in the subject he's learning and told him he should double check as what he was saying was wrong as far as I could remember. He erupted in anger shouting that I was talking down to him and that he would rather listen to his tutor than listen to me. I really wasn't meaning to talk down to him, it was just chit chat I thought.
He was quiet for the rest of the day, he's been given an assignment which has to be handed in, in 4 weeks but he seems to think he needs to get it done on his 2 days off this weekend. So I took the baby away and gave him space.
Last night in bed we were chatting and he asked what was wrong with me. I told him I felt he'd been unduly moody and a bit snappy with me. Told him I know he's under pressure but maybe he could try and enjoy his time with his family too. He jumped up in anger and went down stairs. I listened as he walked Oundle shouting and swearing. Lots of it was inaudible but I heard this "fuckin bitch, the only time I'm unhappy is when I come home to you, you miserable fuckin cunt"
He slept on the sofa then went to bed when I came downstairs with baby this morning.
He knows I can't stand the c word as I find it the most offensive thing he can call me.
Should I talk to him or leave him be? I'm angry but don't want it to end up in a repeat of last night.