I'm beside myself with upset and humiliation. I was with a new boyfriend after leaving a long sexless marriage. I've been dumped because unbeknownst to me, whilst we were having sex at the weekend my bladder leaked & I ended up soaking the place. 
It must have come out in little drips because I didn't feel like I was peeing myself but it was quite clear it was pee. I felt very wet while he was banging away quite vigorously and when I looked down there was an enormous yellow patch 
. I was mortified, he was disgusted. Last night he told me he no longer wants to see me after it had happened for the 3rd time. I am gutted. I guess it happened because I never did my pelvic floors after childbirth but I never felt I needed to. Having not had sex with my ex hsb since childbirth I didn't know I had a problem. It's so crap being a woman, your body shot-to-bits after giving birth. I guess I'm going to have to do olympic quantities of pelvic floor exercises now to make it tight again. I feel so bad this happened. I just want to be a normal (fit) woman again. Instead I feel like a dirty, incontinent, smelly old wreck.