Getting divorced, need sexual confidence, need vibrator?

[clapham457]

My husband had a million affairs (found after when we separated). I have no sexual confidence - have faith it can come back. I just don't think I am ready for a man. Had a couple of short relationships but I lack confidence and get that I need to work on myself.

I'd love some advice.

Is a vibrator part of the solution? I'm worried about getting involved too deep with an unsuitable man - ie not right for me

Thanks

A vibrator used alone is a masturbatory aid, I don't want to plug any particular site but Lovehoney is a great place to start. They also have a forum for people to chat about sex toys and sex in general.

It may be part of the solution if you think it would help? Maybe take time away and explore what you enjoy, what floats your boat as it were.
Either way, a sex toy can't really hurt, unless you use it wrong.

thanks - appreciate the reply......hard to get your confidence back!

You will find some useful threads on the Sex board here

Definitely! Get yourself a box-full from Lovehoney & rediscover your smile...

I fully recommend a mains operated magic wand vibrator. You get them on ebay for about £20. Bloody magic they are.

Don't get a magic wand as your first ever vibrator. Don't!! Stick to something more tame. The mains operated ones are too intense for a first time user, IME.

Welcome to MN, clapham