We've been seeing each other for a month only, but I feel like I am constantly wondering where I stand. He chased me but since he "got" me, I have felt like he's not that into me and it makes me feel like such an idiot because he didn't come cross as a player at all and I honestly thought he really liked me.
He never phones me, he only texts. I don't think he has ever phoned me.
He replies to all my texts right away but not in a way that rollls conversations along
If I ignore him, he texts me, but only once every couple of days.
He never asks me about my day or my life really or has conversations that seek to get to know me at all.
He never plans dates in advance, it's generally quite last minute
He has plans often on weekend nights with his mates and has never asked me to join him.
After a week of not seeing me he suddenly needs to see me as a matter of urgency. Once he has seen me (ie: shagged me) his need is sorted for another 5 or 6 days.
He seems to be online on whatsapp quite late at night sometimes and he's not talking to me! Talking to other women???
His birthday is next week and he doesn't seem to want to make plans to do something together.
When he was trying to get me to go out with him he was promising weekends away and texting me constantly and talking about romantic things and making an effort and I now feel completely discarded. I am frustrated because I want to talk to him about this but it's hard to when I never see him and we don't talk in between.
We've had four dates in a month, and not talked on the phone at all in that time. Yes, he sometimes does text a lot but it's typically when he's wanting to see me.
I will say to help give the balance there are good things about him...like he is very affectionate and loving, like he doesn't want to leave when he is with me, like I know his friends all know about me, like he is caring about me if i have a worry or a problem I could talk to him, but all of this is just completely ruined by me feeling basically like he doesn;t like me that much.
I want to feel like he's thinking about me. I want to feel like he want to see me as much as he can and not just because he's horny. I want to feel like he wants to get to know me better and find out things about me. I know he wants to take it slow and see what happens but I feel like I can't do that because he's killing off the positive feelings in me by being so cool. He is a shy person and he does keep his emotions close to himself but I feel like I am using that as an excuse in my own head for behavior which is really saying "he doesn't like you enough"
Based on the things I have described he isn't into me is he?
I just feel so bloody upset and i know this is a small thing and only a month long relationship but this is the 12th guy I have dated in two years and each one of them has in some way been a disappointment.
Should I be dumping and moving on here?