Someone has reported me to SS.....

[TaliZorahVasNormandy]

My anxiety is now through the roof and my head is pounding.

It was done anonymously, the reasons being:

DD watches shows like NCIS. Not true, I dont watch NCIS, anything I do watch she doesnt.
She watches youtube clips of GTA. Not true, only thing she watches on youtube is paw patrol and barbie things.
I have rotting food in the kitchen. Not true, I have a compost bin outside my front door for it.
There is no where to sit down in the living because it's so cluttered. Not true, you can walk in to my living and sit without having to move anything.
She never says please or thank you. It's true for strangers, but not for people she knows. We are working on it.
She doesnt talk to people and she just sits and stares at them. Not true, she doesnt stare, she just isnt sure how to talk to them. she is very shy around people she doesnt know. Around people she does she will talk to them like any normal 8 year old would.

I've been a single mum for 6 years without little support from her father, this is the 3rd time, I've had this. It makes me feel like a evil mother from hell and I dont deserve to have her.

I have no idea who would call up about me. I havent pissed anyone off to warrant a malicious report, only people who come over are friends and family.

Just need to vent about it, because crying isnt helping.

What ab awful thing to do, do you know why?

Why on earth did she do it? What was she hoping to achieve?

I trust that your dm will be having a word with your dsis and that you won't be entertaining her in the company of little cockwomble again.

Unfortunately, without giving away too much info, little sister has left home and refuses to speak to my mum, who she also reported to SS.

I suspect it was jealousy, since mum helps me out while I'm working. I dont really know of any other reason. Atm, I'd just rather not speak to her.

Oh and SS never come around. But according to what she told our aunt, SS have had a lot of reports from the school. I call bullshit.

Has there been any action taken by SS? Did you have a difficult relationship with your Dsis? Seems an extreme reaction but then teenagers don't always think about the consequences of their actions. No excusing that though. Hope things are ok for you.

Ss wouldn't tell your sister if there had been reports from the school or not. So yes, bullshit. What a bitchy thing to do!

Probably best to distance yourself from your sister - she sounds toxic

Must point out my sister is only 16. I was practically a second mother to her as she was growing up.

OP,
Social Services will be used to receiving (often malicious) reports about single parents.
Unfortunately, when it comes to Single parents, trouble makers often see them as 'fair game'

If a married couple leave their food compost bin in the wrong place it means they have left their food compost bin in the wrong place.
If Single mother leaves her compost bin in the wrong place, it means she is 'leaving rotting food around'
It's so unfair.
But rest assured that they will be,used to this sort of malicious reporting, but they still have to investigate.
Be polite and welcoming and all will be well.
I'm sure you are doing a fantastic job. They will see that.
Stay strong.

It sounds as if the ungrateful little cowbag is well matched to her little cockwomble.

Has she explained why she reported you to SS? Didn't she realise the distress this would cause you and, by default, her dn?

Goddess, I havent spoken to her and even if I did, all I'd get is a load of abusive like others have got recently. Shes 2 hours away now so I dont get the temptation to throttle her.

Its jealousy. When she was hurling abuse at my mum, that is one of the things that she used against mum. What she failed to realise is that mum helps out so I can work. I also suspect she has never really liked DD.

Wow i remember your thread and I'm shocked. If there's ever a reason to go nc with someone it's this. What a vile piece of shit she is. Poor you stressing out and here this thing was behind it. She affected your dd as well. Really hope you have nothing to do with her again.

Your OWN sister!
What a vicious cow.

What a nasty sister :-(

Your dsis sounds a thoroughly nasty and conflicted piece of work whose hatefulness will no doubt come back to haunt her multiplied by the law of three.

Be relieved that she's well out of reach and wait to see who she turns to when the cockwomble, and others she and he have upset, turns on her.

Sisters by fate, friends by choice. The only tie that links you to your dsis is an act of fate as she's certainly no friend of yours and I hope you'll never be tempted to trust her again.

16 year old girls can be complex and horrible creatures. When she grows up, she'll probably look back at this and cringe mightily at how she fucked up here. There's no logic to her behaviour beyond her hitting out and feeling that life isn't fair.

My sister, is the epitomy of a brat. She has been given everything she ever wanted and has not been quite enough for her.

I'm not thinking about her at the moment. I hope DD doesnt turn out like that. I've only 5 years to go before I find out.

What a total fucking bitch your sister is!

do what liney did op and then take action against that person.BTW i do not open my door to anyone unless that person is there at my request or with my prior agreement. I also had bad experiences with ss not helping when i was left with 2 toddlers and a baby and no money and was refused financial help.You will feel stronger and less anxious if you fight back.

I had this problem some years ago when I lived in Scotland. There were all sorts of daft accusations and a few half-truths. The SW showed up, looked around, ascertained that the family/house/kids/and I were all fine and buggered off. Even though they came around more than once, they knew it was someone being malicious.

I also got pulled over by the police because they'd gotten reports that I was "driving recklessly" around the neighbourhood. Nonsense.

What struck me as odd about the OP's post was that none of those supposed issues seemed worth of SS attention, other than perhaps the rotting food in the kitchen. It's not ideal for children to watch NCIS or GTA videos but I'll bet lots of kids see that stuff. And a cluttered sitting room?! Really?!

If someone were going to be malicious, wouldn't they at least make up something more colourful than that?

This is such a sad thread. I assume that your sister knows you have been investigated in the past and is therefore aware how vulnerable you feel. This makes it so much worse. Awful of her.

I wonder if you can get some sort of order forcing her to desist? Apart from preventing this from happening again, it help you regain your confidence.

since you were a mother figure for your s , she may be jealous of your dd . Your s is 16=very young to be living with a boyfriend. How old is he? If he significantly older e'g' in his 20s, then she may be manipulated into isolating herself from her family by making false accusations to ss re you and your mother. I am not excusing her false accusations but they are so childish in nature because she is still 1/2 child. She needs help and support to become more secure . As i do not live in uk, hopefully more knowledgeable mners can suggest how to start this process. The ss shd be willing to do more than just dismiss the accusations and consider the sit of the 16 yr old who made them as she does need them.

He is 17 but they live with his parents. I do believe he is part of the reason for her behaviour recently. She has been utterly vile to most of the family recently. Unfortunately, now she is 16, there is very little we can do to get her home. The police wouldnt help.

There is no talking to her, a chat with the police didnt help. Once she has her mind made up, she wont change it.

hi Tali, what about the ss? When they contact you can you raise concern for your sister? I know this is asking a lot from you , so maybe your mother cd contact ss and see if they are able to offer her an alternative to living with her boyfriend and his family and engaging in such hurtful, isolating behaviour. I am hearing her screaming for help and love altho her actions say the exact opposite.

SS have already contacted me back in october, they havent taken it further. I doubt they'd really be interested in dealing with a 16 yr old who is legally old enough to leave home.