Domestic violence please help

[Clarkey2345]

I am in a domestic abuse relationship and have been for 7 years it's got worse over the past month or so name calling threats etc accusing me of cheating and don't know what to do woman's aid has offered to help me with a refuge but he has stated if i left him and he couldn't find me he would hurt my family and i cannot risk that happening and don't know what else to do please help!!!!!!

Clarkey, I do realise it is sooo much easier to say 'just get out' than it is to actually make that move- and to keep moving, when you've been beaten down for years. What you have to try to bear in mind is that there is a much, much better future waiting for you on the other side of the door.

The reason you're getting this advice from a lot of us is that we have been in similar situations at some point, and know from experience that the sky doesn't fall on your head the minute you decide to get out.

Good luck.

Hi DreamingOfThruxtons great advice and your right it is harder to just say leave him and the abusive relationship but i will be chatting with woman's aid this week so i can work out a safety plan to put in place.