Can you get over being shallow

[Dadbod]

Sorry for the huge wall of text but I feel it's all relevant. I May get mixed reactions on this one but it's eating me inside

Been separated from my child's mother for 9 months and done the dating scene a bit without much luck

My problem is I dated one girl for a while who was brilliant. We got on great similar intrests and was great with my daughter when they did eventually meet. Everything was great. Except that she's not realy my type. I don't realy fancy her. When It came down to it she bought up commitment and taking things further ect. And I backed out. Told her I wasn't ready and now I'm
Back at square one

I feel like everything was brilliant and I could have a great relationship with her. She was great with my daughter and sex life was great. What's wrong with me. Everything inside me says I should be with her but I can't get over the looks thing. I honestly feel like a complete bellend for it

Background info we are Both pretty much sorted in life good jobs own things and houses. And for the record she's not bad looking she's actually quite pretty. Just the complete opposite of my type. I'm a fairly good looking chap. I'm used to getting a fair amount of attention of women. I feel this may be contributing to the problem in my head as I could have a girlfriend that is my type easily.

Please advise me someone. I know I'm being an idiot but my head is pickled.

Can u have a relationship with someone you don't fancy if everything else is prefect?

I suppose. It might be the same mechanism at work as this. i have over time bought some stuff and that has been cars hi-fi equipment whatever and in some instances i had to keep telling myself it was OK as I got it and such a good price but never quite felt happy with it. Whereas other things i was happy and never had that sort of doubt.

Please don't anyone start on you can't compare a car to someone I'm not just a comment of does it feel right or not.

It's not the OP who compared women to cars, it's another poster.

Sorry. Not quite awake today. Will report my post.

Hope that post i made didn't cause any upset as said it was only to demonstrate a principle not to compare people with cars. It was more of the emotion issue, after people can get emotive over things like steam engines and the like:).