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I just don't get it ...

115 replies

Kimberley00001 · 18/09/2015 16:00

Im writing about a male friend of mine. Well I say friend ive known him for 4 years and ive slept with him twice.
I admit that I do like him and he likes me but he isn't single. In fact he has had relationship after relationship, often overlapping ones that often only last 6 months to 2 years max. To give some back ground info he's early 50s with secondary school age children. Im early 30s with one child. Ive often thought he might have something wrong with him he can ignore messages for days on end and then message back , often out of the blue as if nothing's happened. It doesn't end there though. He's told me he couldn't be in a relationship with me as he only dates women who are over say size 14 and are below attractiveness in looks. Ive seen a couple of his exes and they are all a Miranda hart type, but smaller in height. He is good looking and I am above average looks wise and size 8. please bear with me on this this is not a wind up I promise, I wish it were ....He also only dates those that have older grown up sons and work in a certain job role. I mean there is no deviation from this mould. I only slept with him as I had no idea he wasn't single, but im confused as hell as to why he did as im not what he's looking for obviously !! Ive thought maybe he has a mental health issue or something but I suppose deep down im just wondering what is it I can't give him .. Im single after a lt relationship that failed a while ago, ive only been in one relationship so people like this confuse hell out of me !
Ok well any input much appreciated x

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brokenhearted55a · 20/09/2015 19:33

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Kimberley00001 · 20/09/2015 19:34

It's not a wind up I can't reiterate that any more

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Kimberley00001 · 20/09/2015 19:34

And yes broken, that is it you've nailed it !

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springydaffs · 20/09/2015 21:52

Choked him?? Call me innocent but the idea of choking someone while having sex has never entered my head. Did he ask for it? As for couldn't walk for days he was so rough. Fuck.king.hell.

AND he's in a relationship. AND he's a liar - barefaced.

And you're agonising over him? Mr sends photos of himself weeing in the bath? Fucksake girl, what on earth has gone on with you that you would give someone like him a second's headspace??

Kimberley00001 · 20/09/2015 22:32

He wanted to be choked springy.

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SlowlyGoingINSAINIA · 20/09/2015 22:38

His name isn't Gyp Rosetti is it? Grin

AnyFucker · 20/09/2015 22:47

if somebody wanted you to spear them with a knitting needle through the eyeball, would you do it ?

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Kimberley00001 · 20/09/2015 22:58

Yes I will block/delete. Broken tell me how your ass clown was worse ?? On if you don't wish to share on thread?

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Kimberley00001 · 20/09/2015 22:59

That should say pm not on!!!

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Kimberley00001 · 22/09/2015 09:50

So so angry right now. The way this "man" has behaved is despicable and I actually cared for him... Guess it took a while for what he really is to sink in, Feel like telling him a few home truths but I wont.

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springydaffs · 22/09/2015 10:09

Why are you so angry? Has something happened?

You don't give much info op Confused

suzannecaravan · 22/09/2015 10:23

I say choke him and choke him good this time

Kimberley00001 · 22/09/2015 10:27

No springy nothing's happened, it's just the realisation that he's just a using bastard and he doesn't care one iota. I just don't know how some men are able to have a conveyer belt of women to have relationships with. It would Serve him right to be alone. Oh and the stupid fucking quotes of ed sheeran songs on his whatsapp status may have given me the rage a little bit.

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Justaboy · 22/09/2015 10:41

Kimberly00001 from a blokes point of view I'm very suspicious that men and women can be friends without some* degree of sexual attraction be that good or bad!. But this one well!, its staring you in the face really is it not?. Your being USED there spelt it out. Drop him, he's not a friend your just in effect an unpaid -

You might do his poor wife a favour and tip her off but I suspect she already knows shes being cheated on or is in a state of denial about it.

I really don't know why men like him don't just remain single and see prostitutes for sex and that is a more honest transaction than cheating on not only his wife and a friend as well.

Bad form.

Kimberley00001 · 22/09/2015 10:57

Justaboy, he's not married he's been divorced a few years now. He has however had a string of failed relationships with various women because he can't handle being alone. Often setting up the new one before dumping the other. He hasn't set up home with any of these gf so I think he thinks it's ok? To cheat. Im Not near to him so I don't have to see him again if I don't want to.

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Justaboy · 22/09/2015 11:03

Well i'm not a psychologist by any means but it seems to me he's a serial philander or shagger!. Seems also that his growth stopped somewhere after all I used to piddle in the bath with my sister, but as we only had a tin bath, yes it's true, we were only 2 or 3 years old!, haven't done it since for sexual or any other reasons!

He sounds a right rum 'un as my gran would have said;!.

Kimberley00001 · 22/09/2015 11:13

Thanks for making me laugh, justaboy x

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Justaboy · 22/09/2015 11:18

Pleased to be of service ma'm. I left out the bit we had to stop 'cos it made the bath rusty, but perhaps that's just too much information;!.

springydaffs · 22/09/2015 11:19

Grin justaboy

Kimberley00001 · 22/09/2015 11:53

Ha, his fantasies included a lot of erm wee play lol

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Kimberley00001 · 22/09/2015 11:54

Guess im just being charitable now and leaving some lucky lady to have tbis experience Grin

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Kimberley00001 · 22/09/2015 12:04

I need to get this guy off my facebook, I can't do it as he's deactivated but he goes on it now and again just to nose etc, any ideas?

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Justaboy · 22/09/2015 12:06

Oh i bet there some out there who'd like that . A mate of mine who's gay told me of some experiences that some gays get up to. Ones called "felching"

Warning do not look this up if you are easily shocked or of a nervous disposition;!. You have been warned!.

Kimberley00001 · 22/09/2015 12:09

I can't not look just a boy lol, and I meant to say he noses then deactivates, grr so annoying . He wanted sex with a strap on too,I actually thought he might of been a bit bi or something Grin

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