my Dh and I have been together 12 years. 4Dc (3 me, 1 him) no Dc together. Only 1 DS (mine) still at home. Our sex life I'm assuming has been like most people's, amazing at times and drought at other side. We have just come through a phase of "feast" but now the sex has stopped and for a change its him that has lost all interest not me.
He has attributed his low libido to age (approaching 50) work etc. fair enough. However he regularly works away and I've found out that he has been watching porn while away and masturbating. Normally this would be no big deal but seeing as he hasn't wanted sex with me for the last 2 months I'm finding it incredibly hurtful and confusing. If his libido is low how can he be enjoying porn??
I know there is no OW purely because when he is home we spend all our time together and when he is away it is impossible for him to be seeing someone . (His work environment is one of only men with literally no access to the outside word!)
We generally have a brilliant relationship. He is my best friend. I'm trying to be supportive but I feel very hurt. BTW I found out as it came up in conversation with him, we are both very open minded and normally him watching porn wouldn't have been a problem. Thanks for reading!