what would you think? am i reading too much into it?

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a while ago i found half a viagra tablet in my dh bag. as he has absolutely no problem with that i assumed the silly bugger had got it from a workmate just to try .
since then i have found a few more, by my reckoning he has taken it 5 times (could be more)

when i confronted him about it he said he had taken it when he thought we were on for it, thinking it ould be good or we might do it twice.

but, we have hardly been having sex for a long time. probably once a month or once every two months sometimes.

i feel like there is something i just don't get with this.
how would you feel?

btw it is a fella at work that has been selling them for £1.50 each!

to be honest I would believe him as my dh did something similair. He got something from a friend that had same effect and didnt say anything until I found it. Basically said similair that he had thought that he might be able to have a couple of hours of fun rather than the usual quickie if and when..although we never ever got around to using the stuff...lol

I'd be worried, TBH, particularly because of the lack of sex in your marriage.

Has he been complaining about it, and what have the two of you been doing to address the problem?

You're going to have to ask him what's really going on.

but he has taken it a fair few times now and tbh i didn't notice any difference!

there is a slight worry in my mind that he is trying to impress someone else or something

i did talk to him and he said i was making a fuss over nothing. basically i have hardly any sex drive and he does.
i have tried to figure it all out but i still don't feel like doing it that often.
we were getting on fine but now i feel a bit iffy.

and yes, sorry, he definately gets fed up with me not wanting sex as much as him

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i tend to just go to sleep though afterwards

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Perhaps he wanted YOU to take it, if you have less interest in sex than him

Have a frank chat about how you both feel about your sex life and the Viagra.

i'm just not in the mood all that much really.
we have talked about it loads of times. i kind of went of it a bit after ds1 was born and then later found that dh had lied about a load of money that had been spent which turned out he had spent it on pornos.
that was a few years ago and i think because at the time it was all a big deal and because he also used to create a REAL fuss when i didn't fancy it, it's dampened down my sex drive somewhat. of course i could be wrong.
i really don't think he intended me to find the viagra, in fact , at first he said he had only tried it once or twice but i told him i knew he was lying. it was well hidden too. i have talked to him and he just thinks it's no big deal.

would it have any benefit if he was just using it for when he has a w**nk?? if not then he must be trying to impress someone else (horrible thought)

That's alot of effort for a wank to be honest, but if there's not much going on between you two in that dept, perhaps he is 'experimenting' on his own?

what other reasons could there be though
masturbating , other woman, thats it isn't really