Have name changed.
This is part relationships and partly how I'm feeling so please bear with me.
Been with oh over ten years have dd and another on way. Decided to get married now while pregnant to avoid having to have big thing but we still get to formalise everything.
We initially wanted parents only but my mum kicked off though my sis and dn should be invited- we caved and invited them.
Since then mil has gone nuclear about oh not invited his sis who he's been nc with for over a year due to her being aggressive.
Mil said some awful things to me and I've been in tears the last couple days with all the stress. She said she didn't want to be at the wedding and didn't want any of her side there.
We spoke to my parents and they said for the sake of no arguments just go off on your own and get married so we told mil that no one was invited.
I think now ill cancel the while thing or postpone until next year.
I'm still feeling ill with stress of the arguments.
My oh is now more angry with his mum and wants us to go ahead with only my parents there instead- I think this will cause more issues for me further down the line- mil thinks the sister not being invited was entirely my doing (not true).
We just wanted to finally get married no fuss but its caused chaos :(
If I cancel it will be hard my best friend gets married 2 weeks later so will still have weddings on my mind.
I've sent mum dress back and cancelled meal etc already but kept the reg office date- my oh just wants to do whatever will be least stressful he's worried how all this upset is affecting pregnancy and also my dd is noticing mummy is upset too.