Hello, new user so please be gentle with me. I'd like to ask for some advice with yourselves...
Here's the situation: Wife (37) and myself (46) have been married for nearly 14 years, have two sons (16 & 11), both work, and dare I say it happy in all respects. Approx 8 years ago, for various reasons, our sexlife was not quite what we both wanted, but over the years, we've worked, discussed and communicated to where we are now which is both happy and fulfilling.
We've discussed the usual fantasy kind of thing but not really acted on it, more of a pre-curser and fun to chat/discuss these things... nothing weird, just the usual. One thing is wife rarely (if ever) tells me hers...
Now a few weeks ago, during an 'encounter' I asked the usual about her fantasies and she initially wouldn't, but then mentioned a fantasy were she wants to have a one night stand with a stranger. Initially she thought I'd hate her for this, which I obviously do NOT.
A day or two later we discussed this further. And then after I'd thought it through over a few weeks, I decided that we'd talk more - I should note that wife has never done this before, even before we met - she's only ever had two relationships, her ex and me. After talking, I've told her I'd be ok with it - as long as she follows just a couple of rules. 1. Safe sex (ALWAYS). 2 She does NOT stay the night, and 3. She tells me about it (NOT Details). I even bought a small pack of condoms as a physical gesture so she knows I am serious.
Now the problem, last night she comes home and is in a bad mood, I ask her why and she just says because she is. As I gently push, she mentioned it's because of all this and that it's really messed her head up and she's re-thinking her entire life.
Questions:
- Have I done something so wrong it will ruin us?
- Have I gone a bit far in buying the condoms?
- Have I handled this all wrong?
I think (and I believe she does also), we have a VERY strong relationship, but I am worried I may have harmed this.
ANY and ALL advice would be greatly appreciated