I hooked up with a man back in April, we were both in relationships and it was wrong but good sex. We hadn't met up since but kept in contact very sporadically.
Lately he's been contacting me a lot more as we've both ended our relationships so are single.
Last week we agreed to meet up, I went to his house for a couple of glasses of wine and ended up staying the night. I thought it'd be for sex only but I felt like we really clicked.
He talked so much sense and I now think he's one of the nicest guys I've ever met. He was saying things like "I really, really fancy you", "I've been waiting for this for so long", "your ex was an idiot for letting you go" and "sex with you is great but laying next to you cuddling is even better". So yes, a lot of things that made me really like him and I thought he liked me too!
I left next morning as we both had to get to work. He sent me a couple of texts in the morning and a couple of texts in the afternoon (he initiated it both times). This was Friday.
I didn't hear anything all weekend and then I sent him a text Monday morning asking him how his weekend was and he still hasn't replied! I'm getting really paranoid now as to why he's not replying!? Surely if he's not that into me he'd just say?
And I really felt like we had a connection so I'm genuinely surprised he's not been in contact. Please tell me something to cheer me up!
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itaintmebabe · 12/08/2015 14:49
Look, you originally met up for casual sex which all went well. Then you do it again a few months later. This time, however, you feel differently and are interested in taking this further. But, does he know that? No. Why? Because you haven't told him.
He said some romantic chat in the bedroom, but frankly that's roughly normal,surely? He was still basking in the oxytocin a few hours later and sent a few texts. Then he went back to his real life and you are not a part of that.
So, if you have changed the goalposts and now do want an actual relationship then you have to tell him. Don't text him, call him and speak to him like the olden days 
. Ask him out on a date ( you can google this). And good luck. But don't,mif you are hoping for a relationship, settle for fwb. You will end up feeling used and bitter.
Seize the day. [ smile]
Men are odd creatures, I think they do get swept up in the moment. One I knew wanted to get married, have babies, run away to a cabin and grow old. He also spent hours some days on an old nokia mobile phone tapping this all out in great detail, only to go poof for weeks at a time. At the time I called him a head cooker, now I just think he was seriously ill
I think you have to realise that he has seen the message and he has decided not to reply, either because he has an agenda, no agenda or he can't be arsed. But again, just chill, they usually panic when they don't hear from you and then its up to you to decide how to proceed. Because he will contact you again. They always do.
"Ghosting" is disappearing on someone without explaining why, Mary. As in they text you, you reply, and then a silence bigger than a continent emerges 
Just remembered mine ended his last text to me with ....
Feel slightly panicked about that.
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