I'm 36, happily married for 12 years, we have 3 gorgeous kids, hubby and I both have good jobs, good family, great local friends, I thought everything was going just fine - how silly of me.
I found out in April that my husband had been sending intimate photos of me (and us) to one of our mutual friends - and has also (I belive) sent to one or more guys he's been chatting to on the net.
I found this out because I saw a text message on his phone from one of his mates, who he used to work with - asking a question about OUR sex life.
When I confronted DH he admitted he had started chatting to his mate about us middle of last year, and it had grown into sending photos etc - very personal private photos.
I felt used and totally exposed. He denies that he's sent photos to anyone else either that he knows or doesn't know - he swears its just this one guy, but I find that hard to believe.
I feel betrayed that he would send photos of me behind my back to a friend who knows us both. I'm equally upset with our mutual friend, he should know better, but he's a single guy who doesn't answer to me and has only his own morals to deal with.
Hubby has promised that he's deleted all photos - and he said he only started by chance, it wasn't planned and it just grew. He said he got a kick from it and didn't feel it was a risk as he knew the guy he was sending photos to.
I am so lost and adrift at the moment, I don't feel this is worthy of a separation or worse - and he's the most perfect husband otherwise and amazing dad to our kids - but I never ever thought he could do something like this - its another side to him that I never knew existed.
Has anyone ever had experience of this before? Is this something you can get over if you work through it?