partener left me on holiday

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I'm currently on holiday in Bulgaria with my other half and the 2 kids, we were already arguing before we left the airport and now he's told me we're finished and we haven't seen him for 2 days. I don't know where he's sleeping he won't answer calls or text messages and the kids are heart broke. We've been looking forward to this for so long and now I don't know what to do. I can barely find my way around the hotel complex im useless with that sort of thing. I just want to go home but can't as i ve got another week here yet. Trying to keep the kids happy but I just want to cry. Anyone offer any advice

was a woman that stormed off

Bloody hell what an awful, awful thing for him to do. How childish and immature.

Report him as missing to the rep and then enjoy yourself with your children.

Can you imagine when he turns up and his disappearing act has had his desired effect? You crying and worrying? Then he's won, he's got his control.

What if he comes back and you and your children are having a great time? That's what will re address the balance.

If the OP's DH has form for this sort of thing - big, dramatic rows and storming off then she has no reason to suspect anything has happened other than what appears to have happened ie he has stormed off and is in a huff.

The only thing I would be doing, as I suggested earlier is, texting her DP to say I am reporting you missing to the police if I haven't heard from you by xpm. And contacting one of his friends or family at home to say the same thing. This will serve the purpose of alerting his family/friends to what an arse he has been; alerting her DH to the fact there are consequences to storming off and going no contact when you have a wife and DCs.; and letting the police know to keep an eye out for him.

I'm so on the OP's behalf because all of this is impacting on her holiday and I have no doubt her DH is just a selfish, manipulative arse who will swan in protesting she has exaggerated and then blame her for being overdramatic.

If you didn't have DCs, I would suggest going the full Daily Mail sad face with an appeal for your missing DH just so everyone can see what a wanker he is . . . sorry, not helpful but he is being such an arse

I'd be beside myself with worry that he was going to come back and ruin the rest of the holiday.

Imperial that made me snort wine tea through my nose.

Childish and immature ? a resounding yes!.

A missing person ,perhaps half cut and who's obviously troubled about something, is a serious matter.

The thing is we do not know the bigger picture. We cannot judge this man on one isolated incident, namely the rows that preceded his disappearance.

Number one priority is for him to be found.

imperial me too.

That's why I would report him missing along with a a request for a different room explaining if he does tip up I don't want him to know here me or the kids are and wondering in drunk in the early hours and starting another row.

I'm not sure you can just ask for another room like that, though. She's got one that's not got a problem with it - would the hotel change her just so she could hide from her husband, who is in fact another guest?

I'd be looking at my online banking to see whether he'd paid for another hotel or taken money out while he was there.

And I'd be pricing up life assurance.

He's given himself a free pass hasn't he? Ditched you and left you with the responsibility of the children, whilst he has a singles holiday. And no doubt he'll turn up as you're due to go home. And he'll blame you for starting the argument.

What a cunt. I can't imagine how horrible you must be feeling, but try and find it in yourself to have a good time for the children. And stop trying to contact this bastard. He knows he has the upper hand here. If you stop trying to contact him, he will be less sure of himself.

He's ditched you? Good for you! He's done you a massive favour. What kind of father does this to his kids?

IMPERIAL just because you did the corossy out thing, it still counts.

*crossy out

imperial you can ask for whatever you want. She may not get it, but she can ask. The rep needs to weigh up the media fall out if he turns up again and there is a further incident. Let's be fair travel companies only give a shit about media fallout.

If the op is nervous of him returning she can ask the rep for help. Changing the room keys would be a start. Assuming it's a key card not a key.

When I eventually saw him I would make is clear I reported him missing to cover myself in the event something bad happened to him. Not because I have a shit where he was or what happened to him.

gave a shit....not have a shot

Gosh how awful for you . I presume you have the passports . If not then you need help ASAP . Take care .

he will be back, I am sure of it OP. like a bad penny.
is he always badly behaved when he has had alcohol?

Please try and enjoy your and your kid's holiday. hard as it is.

Alternatively OP you could just the kids and go home if it is really awful and hard for you

I'm with imperial on this. There's no other choice but to crack on with it.

This happened to me in Thailand and it was actually really scary. Ex H was flaky from the moment we got there, disappearing for hours at a time and rolling up at 4 am in the morning. Half way through he came up with a business meeting that he just HAD to get back for and off he went. Supposed to return but didn't. Didn't call, no contact at all. I had to get me and two kids with autism back from one of the Islands to Bangkok and then another flight back to London. There was no one to help so I just had to do it. We got out and about, kids swam a lot, just took it very easy, didn't put us under any pressure. No chance I was letting that selfish fuck ruin the holiday .

I'm still here to tell the tale and my kids had a great time. I didn't. I was scared, worried and ill (diagnosed with pneumonia on return) but I just cracked on and there were some good moments.

You'll be fine, you really will and at least you're not 14 hours and two flights away like I was.

He's turned up wanting to get back in the room. Hes said he will sleep in our sons bed and put him in with me and he will stay ' for the kids' he said he'll stay out of my way and just use the room to sleep in. If I kick him out the kids are gonna be so upset, they've been missing him like mad. There 7 and 6 so understand enough. He said he's slept on the beach don't know if I believe him or even care. And yes he's always been a prick when he's drunk but never like this.

Loads of practical advice on here already.

"D"H is an absolute wankrag of a husband n father.

Really hope u can salvage what is left of ur holiday n have some fun with ur DCs.

It would be expensive to come home - no insurance covers "being with a knob" as a reason to fly you home early.

Also, bad enough for the children to realise their dad's a knob without losing their holiday at the same time.

Nicki, it's amazing what you can do when you have to, isn't it? Good for you to make the most of it with your children, even if it did lead to a collapse after the holiday. I just don't know what goes through some of these people's heads when they just abandon their own family like that.