Any counsellors out there? Question about "The Script"

[purplesprings]

Amongst counselling professionals is "The Script " recognized and accepted? If so how do you work with someone who is seeking counselling as a result of unknowingly being on the receiving end of it? What happens if a couple come in and one of them doesn't realise that the other is ticking all the script boxes?

I'm curious as agreeing to attend counselling without any intention of working on the relationship seems to be accepted as one of the signs of the script.

i agree partly to needs not being met
Not necc sexually, but the listening and caring, in SOME cases..

I'm a psychotherapist too, although I don't work with couples either. You can't really approach therapy with the assumption that either a client or their parter is following a 'script' because everyone is different, the motivations for having an affair are many and varied.

But are you talking about an affair script or emotional abuse? Because these are not remotely the same thing.

Although they can of course be related, not everyone who has an affair is abusive, far from it. Not a popular opinion on here in sure!

The script talks about the cheater manipulating their partner to believe the affair was their fault. Id consider that to be emotionally abusive.

Sure but not all people who have an affair do that. And in some cases maybe it's true!