The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Soaking Up The Warm Sunshine, Instead Of The Warm White Wine!

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Hi, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to The Brave Babes Battle Bus.

A place for pouring out your heart without being judged, mostly because a lot of us have been exactly where you are right now, or somewhere similar.

We've been around for a while, so there's not much that we've not seen..... or heard.... or been through ourselves.

Some of the Babes are newer to the Bus, some of the Babes have been here on dear old "Gerald" (The name this Bus was given by one of the Babes, I forget who now!I suspect IsinDe or Silver) for a little while longer!

EVERYONE is welcome here. Drinkers, those who are complete non drinkers, and those who are somewhere in the middle of all of the above. :)

Some Babes are in control of their drinking, some not so much. It's dreadfully hard some days, days when there is nothing going around your head except thinking that you MUST have a drink and you sit there trying to work out when, what time you can have that first mouthful of ice cold poison.

Whatever your goal here, or why you're here, we'll all help you along the way, YOUR WAY.

There will be one of us on here that can relate to your life story as if it were a mirror they were looking at, someone to hold your hand if you want it, catch you if you fall, which you may or may not. Positive thinking, just One Day At A Time.

No one Babe is better than any other, we've all been addicts. We've all suffered, yes some more than others but it's not a competition (and no-one gets turned away) but if you rack up shed loads of sober days, you will be a winner on the thread!!

So, if you want somewhere safe to sit and enjoy the warming summer sun, come find a seat, have a chat or just sit and listen to the rest of us yakking on!!

Nice to meet you :) all.

Also, here is the latest thread -

THE LATEST THREAD WE'VE SHARED OUR STORIES AND EXPERIENCES ON

And this is the very first thread -

AND THIS THREAD, THIS THREAD IS EXTREMELY SPECIAL BECAUSE THIS IS WHERE THE JOURNEY STARTED, AND HAS SINCE EVOLVED OVER THE LAST SIX YEARS

Hope to chat soon, Mousey x

Oh and Faire that's a fantastic result - you must be so proud!

Great result faire well done her! The sun is finally here in Scotland. Don't begrudge us our one day!

Faire, that's amazing, you must be so proud: well done her (and you). I hope she has an amazing time at university, she has done so well. Will she be near-ish you or not? I find that really hard since from my perspective university is all about going away from your parents and 'growing up', as it was in my day (I am elderly ) - but (a) I am sure things have changed and economic considerations are more pressing now and (b) as a parent of very much younger children I already feel ill at the prospect of how much I might miss them. So, on balance, I hope for your sake she is going somewhere near enough for you comfortably to visit, even if she will no longer be at home.

Dd2 is at uni about 30 miles away from where we live. However, my office is on the university campus, although not connected to the university directly. Handy for her when she needs a lift/lunch/ a tenner/ a cuddle

I would love that ma, just being nearby, but dd is keen to be completely independent. Well that's what she says now, we'll see how she gets on. She's only an hour and half away by train and it's only £20 return so I'm sure we'll see more of her than she thinks. If not, well the train goes both ways

Hope you had a good time with your friend Starburst. It's interesting when you start to observe other's drinking habits. It's what made me realise how abnormal mine was. It only seemed normal when I was with other 'drinkers' if you see what I mean. And that includes all of my family so for a long time I did think it was normal to start drinking before lunch on Sunday and keep going til bedtime.

Wonderful results faire

My youngest has just graduated - another step in the process. We give them wings and we hope they will fly and yet when they disappear over the horizon there is a sadness... until they reappear with new strong plumage. And then maybe later a couple of new wee chicks in the nest...

It just gets better ?

Wonderful faire!

A glimpse of warmth and sunshine yesterday, and now back to the rain..

I'm going to stay with friends for the weekend - walking on the beach, good company and some serious relaxation. My friend has health issues and doesn't drink, so it is good all the way :)

Wow, great results Faire. You must be proud. My incredibly dynamic and motivated pair are still in bed as I type .... Hmmm.

Walked 11 miles with DS yesterday and about to do the 30 Day Shred now (day 3). Sounds impressive but when I saw how much weight I packed on to my already hefty frame on holiday I was alarmed.

Quick diet solutions so I can get back into work pants by September anyone????

looking that made me smile. I am the same, it takes forever to come off but goes back on in a blink. I swear my body is destined to carry extra weight, it wants it, it grabs it and holds onto it. The bastard!!

I am going to treat myself to new work trousers but they won't be a size down as planned. That will have to wait for now

Dd is cool as anything about her results but I do sort of wish now that she'd applied to oxbridge as I think she might have got in. She didn't want the pressure at the time and also was only expecting to get AAB which would not have been good enough. Saying that, they don't actually do the course she wants so she is happy to stick with her first choice. Also, they do run an integrated masters for those that can handle it which means it would all come out of the same funding, so she could always do that if she wanted to. It's an incredibly flexible course.

She's in a great place right now, it's a very exciting time. Makes me think that I should make more effort to embrace life. How easy it is to drift into old(er) age, being less active, less interested (and less interesting), less willing to feel the adrenaline rush of taking a chance - well for me anyway; plenty of babes are out there putting their neck on the line. I am in awe of you and inspired by you all, you are indeed brave babes x

Anyway, enough of my twaddle, I'll be back to cry on your shoulders when she's actually gone but for now I'm back on the diet pony. Only nourishing food and sugar free hydrating drinks will pass my lips today. After I've finished this biscuit

Love to all x

Bloody hell hope stop being so energetic. I haven't done anything further than walk from the kitchen to the sitting room in ages, usually stuffing my face as I do. The weight I lost earlier this year is creeping steadily back on. Just have no motivation whatsoever....

Oh. My. Head.

Faire, I just wanted to say I really liked your post. Your daughter is v lucky to have such a reflective mother. I've been thinking too about that sinking into older/middle age and how easy it is to stop trying/being brave and imaginative. What would you like to do/be, do you think? I worry that I don't even have much of a knowledge of what I'd like to try, let alone the bravery to try it. And the ww certainly doesn't help. Do you have an idea yourself? Anyway, thanks for articulating it so well.

faire good news about your daughter, you must be very proud of her

joey you OK?

Thanks ma just currently going through the usual self-loathing, recriminations and trying not to remember some of the really stupid things I said last night.

How are you doing?

Meh. I'm OK. Not having any AF days though

The bus is so quiet. Where are all the old soaks and the brave newbies?
mouse indie beaches spanna baby thurso rural small...and not forgetting wry..and ladame and all of those Ilve forgotten to mention. Oh khalisi and socfish... and obrigada and who remembers silver?
Who else?

It's really quiet, Ma. I'm sad about that as I miss the buzz of the bus. I'm thinking either that some babes are feeling all summery and free from the WW which would be amazing, or some are lurking (like me) due to stresses of summer holidays and bottles of rose going hand in hand with that, and are a bit too distracted (or in my case, ashamed) to post. But you're right, I keep clambering up on the bus only to see...me, the last person to post. And I'm ok, quite nice even, on a good day - but I see me anyway, and I would rather see someone else! You've done a fab roll call - come back guys! Miss you all.

Joey - how's your head? Mine's shaping up well for tomorrow..

PS - two others for Ma's list - Sweet and Ruby - I think about you lots and if you're lurking, please come and join us and tell us some stories about pup and puss and your lives Miss you guys xx

Head is okay, but brain is still dwelling on last night. Feeling a bit shit.

Okay, instead of wallowing in self pity, maybe I canmake a plan to avoid this in the future? I'm discovering my triggers. In the last three years I have cut downand no longer drink in front of my in-laws. And I don't drink during the day either.

well now I have found a new trigger. Whenever I see I see this particular friend I just always have too much, don't seem to have an off switch. I'm not blaming her at all, it is of course my own responsibility, however I think having realised this, I should avoid this situation in the future. So does it fit in to HALT (Hunger, Anger, Lonely, Tired)

I shall have to think up a new acronym. PST (People, Situation, Time)

Think PST - don't get pissed!

Hey small I feel the same. I've been on this bus for years and never known it so quiet. Are we finally running out of steam?

No, please don't abandon the Bus! It's probably cause everyone is off on their holidays. I'm hoping our caravan next week will have wifi...

I hope so joey. I miss everyone and all the banter and support.