The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Soaking Up The Warm Sunshine, Instead Of The Warm White Wine!

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Hi, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to The Brave Babes Battle Bus.

A place for pouring out your heart without being judged, mostly because a lot of us have been exactly where you are right now, or somewhere similar.

We've been around for a while, so there's not much that we've not seen..... or heard.... or been through ourselves.

Some of the Babes are newer to the Bus, some of the Babes have been here on dear old "Gerald" (The name this Bus was given by one of the Babes, I forget who now!I suspect IsinDe or Silver) for a little while longer!

EVERYONE is welcome here. Drinkers, those who are complete non drinkers, and those who are somewhere in the middle of all of the above. :)

Some Babes are in control of their drinking, some not so much. It's dreadfully hard some days, days when there is nothing going around your head except thinking that you MUST have a drink and you sit there trying to work out when, what time you can have that first mouthful of ice cold poison.

Whatever your goal here, or why you're here, we'll all help you along the way, YOUR WAY.

There will be one of us on here that can relate to your life story as if it were a mirror they were looking at, someone to hold your hand if you want it, catch you if you fall, which you may or may not. Positive thinking, just One Day At A Time.

No one Babe is better than any other, we've all been addicts. We've all suffered, yes some more than others but it's not a competition (and no-one gets turned away) but if you rack up shed loads of sober days, you will be a winner on the thread!!

So, if you want somewhere safe to sit and enjoy the warming summer sun, come find a seat, have a chat or just sit and listen to the rest of us yakking on!!

Nice to meet you :) all.

Also, here is the latest thread -

THE LATEST THREAD WE'VE SHARED OUR STORIES AND EXPERIENCES ON

And this is the very first thread -

AND THIS THREAD, THIS THREAD IS EXTREMELY SPECIAL BECAUSE THIS IS WHERE THE JOURNEY STARTED, AND HAS SINCE EVOLVED OVER THE LAST SIX YEARS

Hope to chat soon, Mousey x

Evening All

Fox you slipped your post in totally un-noticed by me this morning How are you babe? Are you having a good holiday

Nancery your house situation sounds like a mare it's all so stressful with the wanker estate agents. One of my besties has virtually sold her flat (about to exchange) and the house they're buying has fallen through (higher offer made) It sounds like you're doing everything you can to find the 'one' I know it sounds daft but ask the universe for what you want and imagine it happening. Oh god I sound like mystic meg

Soc good to see you Babe. How are you? Winter for you, what you up to?

Orbrigada I hope you've had a good day babe x

Beeches it's been a while, if you're lurking pumpkin I hope you're ok

Baby thank you for your kind words it means alot. How's your day been?

Sweet if you're reading come and say hello x

Joey I hope you managed to get some rest today x

Right I'm going before I lose this post typing in the dark

mouse we've booked a static caravan in Wales for our summer holiday... The weather forecast looks terrible and I'm already wishing we had booked a week in the Maldives instead... I mean theres just going to be sand everywhere, and wet dog, and bored children...

Also I've seen photos of the caravan and its got a real migraine-inducing decor, the kind that could drive you to murder your whining husband kids... I dont know if its too late to back out, or if we just go and pretend that eating scotch eggs in the rain on a beach is FUN

babyj I was also going to suggest working from home! Ideas:

Dog boarding
Ironing
Making wedding cakes
Bookkeeping
Sewing/alterations

Morning All

There's so much love and support on here. I really enjoy reading it all x

Just had an avocado and beetroot salad, so yummy. Why am I still hungry and yearning for some chocolate cake or something as sweet as that

Very quiet on here, I hope everyone ok?

For what it's worth, Spanna, since not drinking (only on day 6 now) I haven't deprived myself of anything else. I know I can't do that long term, but I know that little treats are getting me through the deprivation.

Nita 6 Days is so good, well done you You're doing good Babe, keep going and shove in whatever it takes to beat that Wine Witch, she is after all a tempting bitch

Hi everyone, just checking in really. Spanna thanks re your house comments. It's getting me down as its so frustrating but I keep trying to tell myself that whatever happens will, eventually at least, be for the best.
I've managed to not drink both Mon and Tues but find the longer it is (bearing it kind it's rarely longer than three days) the more tempting it becomes. Perhaps if it's a month without its different but the first few days are tricky!

Checking in. Still no AF day

This turned up on Twitter today: it's a 5 min audio from the Guardian with lots of encouragement to cut down in "the real world":

www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/video/2015/jul/29/drink-too-much-britons-alcohol-problem-video

Anyone around? Am drunk. And wound up. This is why www.mumsnet.com/Talk/thirty_days_only/2437105-FB-post-racist-views-my-subsequent-retaliation-can-I-rant-please?msgid=55833247#55833247

nancery you OK? Sorry wasn't around last night.

Hi, yes am here and ok. Row with my mother on FaceTime And then she didn't turn it off, so they were (her and her friend) discussing my alleged 'high horse' views. Very infuriating!

Details on that link but will post properly later when more with it

Morning babes, Nancery sorry I wasn't around last night, was in a friends house trying on clothes for wedding on Monday and in the spirit of honesty having a glass of wine. We shared a bottle but was home and in bed by 10.

Waves to all babes, old and new, and all those lurking.

Hello my darling, darling Babes.

I'm so sorry for being M.I.A.
Had three weeks off without internet.
I took days to read up on everything. But then I felt shy and felt like I was hiding and needed a few days to work up the courage to post.

baby, many hugs, my friend. I cannot tell you how much you have been on my mind.
The same goes for all you Babes, of course. And a huge welcome to the 'new' Babes! Although you aren't so knew anymore.

Thank you, spanna for the shout-outs. I felt like a peeping Tara reading that but it also made my warm and wuzzy.

mouse OMG. What a bloody nightmare.

spanna, alias, Isinde, April, Ruby, Hope, Sweet, ma, venus hands, obrigada, Fox, Soc, OMG, I'm panicking thinking of everyone I will miss, I am so sorry!

XXX

Morning Khalisi ... 3 weeks without internet, how did you survive?

Oh mouse I am sorry to hear that your holiday is so horrid - what a disappointment. I have a close friend who went on a 2 week holiday to a caravan: her, her dh and their 4 children - all under three years (2 children deliberately planned close together, then a 'surprise' pregnancy which turned out to be twins ). Anyway 4 days after they left I met her dh in the street. "oh I though you were on holiday?" he rolled his eyes and shook his head: "I don't know what we were thinking of - we barely manage to survive day to day in a 3 bedroom house with a playroom and a big TV, how on earth did we think we'd manage in a small tin box, in the rain, with midges eating us alive....."

Now (more than 20 years later) they tell it as a very funny story, but I think it took about 15 years before they got over the horror of it.

Hey khalisi good to see you back!

Hi all, having followed most of the Brave Babes threads, I have now come to decision I have to commit to not abusing alcohol, and writing on here hopefully will make it clear to me and remind me when I try to convince myself that just one bottle will be fine - this is a complete lie.

I have stopped drinking before, for 3 years. Then last year I started again just having a couple of glasses of red wine over the weekend, which over a year has led to buying 4 bottles a week, and putting on a lot of weight.

While on holiday I was reading a thread about how much wine a week is too much? I started to think about how much I was drinking, and then on the plane home one day ago, I drank way too much red wine which resulted in me throwing up in a sick bag and embarrassing myself. My partner could not understand what I was doing and why I was drinking so much. Then I was in the plane's toilet and I remember being sick in the sink and having to try and plunge the sick repeatedly out of the sink because it kept blocking up. Apparently the flight attendants could hear this noise and thought there was something wrong with the plane. I have completely ruined what was an amazing holiday and I feel terrible and ashamed.

I self destructed, perhaps so I had a reason to stop drinking, I don't know... without this experience, I would have come home and got into the same drinking habits.

So, if you would be happy to have me on board, I would love to join you all, and to promise to myself to never ever embarrass my partner again, to get fit and healthy and never to use alcohol again as form of escapism.

This is day one.

Hi Iwanttostaysober I will join you . Have been on this thread before but fell away. No great dramas .....yet....with me but just sick of drinking and want to take a break. Have cancelled a girls night tomorrow because I know despite good intentions I will drink too much
Will return later tonight to hold your hand [smile ]
Day one

Thank you, ma!

Hey and welcome, Stay! I think that was one of the things that got me to be more aware. I was so sick and tired of lying in bed the next morning shuddering, worrying about what I'd done. Alcohol abuse steals so much from us. The other day I heard that in Germany, more people die from alcohol abuse than from any other drug.

Welcome Sober! Love the name!

Thanks for the welcome guys, love the name too soberisthenewblack!

Where is everyone. Was it something I said

I'm here sober and sober
Had a stay of execution in work and the Board have agreed we can trade for 3 more months and then if certain things don't happen, we close. It gives us 12 weeks to work a miracle,but 12 more weeks than we thought we had. So, feel a bit more relaxed and hoping we can in through....