Thank you to those of you who said shoves and pushes do count as DV because I was beginning to wonder. I think perhaps my solicitor meant that pushes and shoves are not enough by way of DV to get legal aid. I hope so anyway.
Egg, interesting that you worked as a female legal aid lawyer, by the sound of it your clients were very lucky to have you.
There was so much to talk about with my solicitor yesterday, and at £250 per hr I felt I had to cut it short. I think that's why he's asked me to send an email as there wasn't enough time to cover everything in the meeting.
I'm probably being really thick here but what's a SHL? I'm new to this and not yet used to the terminology.
Goddess, good point that pushing and shoving can be considered unreasonable behaviour, I will definitely put that on my list. Shame I can't think about a specific incident but I honestly can't remember how and when it happened.
I already started a new thread but it's true that the backstory acts as an aid to enable responders to give an opinion. Thankfully I've had some very good replies so I've got two threads going at the moment. Self indulgent or what?
Thanks you so much for finding the case Onehand referred to, I will copy and paste that and file it somewhere just in case I need it.
Albino, thanks for the tips on the voice recorder, well worth getting one one for my peace of mind as you say.
Naut, I'm in the SW so £250 is expensive round here. He seems like he can kick arse though and that's what I want.
Dowser, I don't often go to the doctor but recently went because I wanted him to look at a mole on my back which turned out to be okay thankfully. I told him I was under a lot of stress and he asked me if I wanted counselling but I turned it down. I might think about it at a later date but for the moment I feel as if I've got too much to think about.
I hear what you're saying about not wanting to be paying for every tear and tissue. Fortunately I was very controlled when I went to see the solicitor yesterday but I can see how easy it would be to tell them your woes and clock up a massive bill. I must be careful of that. Counselling might well be the way forward for me, but not yet.
Finola, I definitely feel I have made the right decision and that gives me strength. On the one hand I feel sad that my marriage is over and on the other hand I am looking forward to a new life and freedom.