Excellent post twerking spinster . War has been declared LAM and now it's all a battle of wits.
And staying safe. He's really going to turn up the volume.
Years and years before the shit hit the fan with my ex I used to think Id hate to get on the wrong side of you. And sure enough my fears were founded.
He played nasty but in his determination to be the victor and come away with the biggest share of the spoils heade one huge mistake. He lied and cheated and tried to hoodwink his own solicitor and everyone else including the judge.
Huge mistake. They are not stupid. Theyve seen it all before. Play it honest, play it clean, be prepared Tobe your own detective if you think he's trying to pull the wool over everyone's eyes. Be prompt in answering letters as every one of them costs. Get to court appearances every time. Let them tie themselves in knots.
Can't afford to live ...I'd love you to tell us if your solicitor did scare him shitless ....as long as you don't out yourself.
It's a one off for us, usually but for the judges and the solicitors ( all female btw) it's just daily bread and butter to them and they can smell bullshit a mile away.
I had a whole team behind me. I won't say who it was but they were professional people and they went through his account with a fine tooth comb and his lies and they challenged everything that didn't add up.....and there was a lot of stuff that didn't add up.
On the day of the court appearance I turned up with a stack of papers and new evidence to show my solicitor which he took straight round to show his solicitor.( How they must have laughed) and the judge.
When it was time to appear before the judge I asked my solicitor if I should take the papers into the court room. She said no not to bother. My eyes practically watered when he came in lugging this huge tome. I thought when does he think he's going to have time to read all of that. I was sat at one end of the table facing the judge, miles away from my solicitor who was facing him and his.
He was waffling the pages backwards and forwards and whispering in his solicitor's ear the whole time. It must have been bloody annoying for her. She was jumping up and down like a little Yorkshire terrier while mine just sat quietly there with a very impassive face. I was just thinking...when are you going to unleash the beast.. But I reckon it was all decided beforehand.
I was waiting for him to het his knuckles rapped for his lies and he did. Just not in the way I expected.
I did really well . It was ages before that sunk in as I was so traumatised and I like to think he got his just desserts.