Husband had blocked me off Facebook, how would you react??

[Louisa111]

Quite blatantly told me to my face too? I've had a few concerns dating back to last year, every time I would tag him in a status he wouldn't accept it on his wall, wouldn't have any pics up of me and him recently and every time I asked he would deny it or kick off.
Then yesterday I actually got a notification to say he had removed something I tagged him in, I just asked why?? He flew off the handle, denied doing it and said that's it I'm blocking you, which I'm sure he's loved to do for a while.
Understandably I'm upset, I can't speak to him. Not just because he did that but the way he spoke to me, add that to the fact in the last he's lied to me about a few things so understanbly I'm a bit in secure about if I can trust him!!
Why would you do that?? Had he something to hide?? I know Facebook causes all sorts of problems but when we first joined we had same passwords and nothing was secret....now, not so
Would you be upset too??

Christ! Are these your choices? You either stay with a cheat or an arse?!! This guy is horrible and has no respect for you. LTB.

I agree with you Louisa111, what if he's NOT cheating?

I'm sorry, but maybe he just doesn't want to get too embroiled into a 'Facebook life' and just wants to use it, as my OH does, for daft videos and chatting to friends... without significant evidence of cheating you could be ending a relationship essentially because he doesn't want to be tagged in Facebook posts! Does nobody see how stupid that sounds???

He could just be getting arsey because he's sick of being followed around on facebook. We all need our own space, and maybe this is his outlet for that??

I'd really suggest having a talk and saying that his insistence on avoiding you on facebook makes you think he's either embarrassed by you or he's hiding something, and that hurts you. Then suggest closing both of your Facebook accounts as it's causing too much aggro for the relationship. Its just not worth it. After all its not like he uses Facebook for anything important or family-related is it? I'm sure he could do without it!

If he refuses for the sake of your marriage then I'd say he's being very unreasonable and your gut instinct is probably right. Start looking for actual evidence of cheating and start preparing to end the relationship, ensuring your financial stability as pp have suggested...

But if he's willing and understands you have nothing to worry about.

But if you go in all guns blazing ending a relationship calling him a cheat because he doesnt want to be tagged on facebook, with no actual evidence you're gonna look a bit mental IMO. If he is having an affair but you can't actually prove it, and you kick him out, you could push him straight into the arms of his mistress. And then in a divorce case he can say he only started this relationship AFTER you threw him out - and you will have no evidence to disprove it.

If you really think he's cheating start digging, get some evidence THEN tell him to sling his hook and serve him with divorce papers! Keep your dignity, don't let him make you look like a fool by throwing around empty accusations...

Yes maybe he is not cheating, yet

Maybe he is still working on the other woman

It may not be a done deal yet

He is just setting it up

brittanyfairies don't know if it was intentional..but "He's still really stupid now." Made me spit coffee and lol.

OP- I'd be doing more digging in your shoes. Good luck

For Gods sake, one thing my DM used to always say in the years our dad, right at the start having his affair with the ow ( long before facebook), he would come home and completely ignore her, be very nasty and abusive towards her, she always said she couldn't understand how he was the one having the affair yet he treated her like dirt and then would get all dressed up and head out to meet his OW, he was disgusting but my DM was so confused she would be nice to him and try not to start up any arguments.

You H is treating you with the same disrespect, it doesn't make sense for him to block you on FB, its that simple, you are here going round in circles, confused and tortured asking the same questions, but is all leads to the same problem. Trust you gut, if you think he is pretending you are seperated on FB tell him you know exactly what he is up, tell him you've seen one of his friends have shown you his page and its all very obvious what he's up. Lie watch his reaction
If he isn't currently having an affair he is already making his moves and he is detaching from you big time, you are the obstacle in his way for doing what he wants, stop taking shit from him, please stop saying he is a good person, he is still controlling you. Stand up to him. I do understand it may be difficult if he is the one earning the money and you are reliant on him

Yes I'm only part time so obviously I'm worried financially if things come to an end.
imthinkingwhatimthinking you've hit the nail on the head. I'm so scared of getting this completely wrong and looking like an idiot. I'd rather be with an arse and work on our relationship than be with a cheat. If I had 100 % proof his bags would be packed

Why would you want to spend your life with an arse?

What will you tell any DC if they come and tell you their DP is treating them like this in the future?

He is treating you like shit.

Life is too short. You will with no prizes putting up with him.

Work out what you will get financially. Knowledge is power and it may not be as scary as you think.

OP. I had similar and even though my dh status mentioned things about family and he had married in the relationship he didn't like me posting or joining in conversations.
In our case it was because he mainly used fb as business tool and his business is very social/ fan based too.
As soon as he knew I was upset he stopped it at once, saw my pov and now we have no problems.
Your dh has no excuse and I'd be suspicious.
Change your relationship status to single or something, see how he reacts.

It's a basic lack of respect, most folk now use FB, if he doesn't want the two of you connected then he should delete himself from it.