Cogito

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Anyone know whatever happened to Cogitoergosometimes?
I thought she was very insightful and helpful in relationships.

There have been a few regulars like Buffy in feminism that have vanished recently. Whatgowaan?

I remember seeing a thread a month or so ago, something along the lines of "which MN'er" would you want to meet in RL".

Someone posted details of Cogito on the thread, which seemed quite personal, maybe even identifiable.
Maybe that put her off.

really, SP ?

erk

I too would run a mile if anything remotely identifiable was posted, as would most of us

although I think she has been MIA for a lot longer than a month

I remember that thread Sauvignon. I think a few people reported that post and I'm sure it was removed.

Bewitched that was a great post. (So glad you're still here! You probably don't remember me but you are one of the ones I remember when I was in Brighton and my premature daughter was very ill. Thank you for your kindness Never did buy you that cup of tea!)

I don't usually post on threads like these but as a resident lurker on the relationship boards I have read so much advice. There are wonderful people here offering time and support for nothing in return. Though I have not asked for advice here, what I have read taught me about the abuse I was suffering. Words reach beyond the op, those too frightened or feel insufficiently eloquent to ask for help. And for this I thank the frequent and wise posters who rarely leave a poster unanswered. It can be a lonely place in a relationship going wrong.

Going back a bit:

I only see Lweji around now.

And sometimes I need a breather from Relationships and go mostly to lighter threads.

There are a few other names who post regularly with good advice and we end up recognising them. I suppose some of us just don't change names as often.

I also miss Cog. "What Cogito said" was a very frequent expression. :)

Shame no one's heared anything conclusive. Hope she's ok. I also wondered if she was a professional counselor IRL...

I do remember you SpottedTent!

I've thought of you after reading your last post when you were snuggled up at home feeding the baby.

I hope you and the baby are well and happy

Thanks Bewitched baby is now three and a half and a horror delight. A day doesn't pass where I'm not infinitely grateful for her. Hope you are well!

Three and a half !!!

Horror is good, she was bound to be a character with all that fight in her.

Cog is an eloquent, thoughtful, benevolent and moderate poster. The counterpoint to Any Fucker's one liner, arrow to the bullseye, of any issue, type approach.

Someone up-thread said they were the yin to each other's yang and I think that's a fair observation.

But, for whatever reason Cog has moved on. This is the second 'Where is she? thread in recent weeks . .. and it doesn't change the fact that for whatever reason, Cog at the moment isn't giving us the benefit of her insight and wisdom.

But the good news is we still have Any (why use 50 words when 5 will do?) Fucker.

if she decides to go missing ... I might start a thread.

yes I'm glad AF is still around.

She is wise indeed. I'm sure she helped me when my stbexh did the dirty, as did others.

I've had so much good advice here.

I still miss Maleficence on this board. She was fab. Did she name change? I'm sure I remember something kicking off...

I really miss Cog I'd post some ridiculously paranoid or self pitying tripe about getting back with abusive stbxh and she would just psychotherapy me out of it in the kindest way possible.

Whereas AF generally just says 'Weed, wtf are you doing you plonker'.

Both similarly effective

I miss reality and getorfmoiland too.

I'm sad at this, under a different name cogito, anyfucker and the other relationships regulars helped me change my life completely. I honestly, truthfully wouldn't of ever left my Exp without their help. You wouldn't believe how different my life is 18 months on.

Impressed with quitelikely and pocketsaviour too. They've really helped me and loads of others on here. It's not a fanclub its just being grateful for some of their time.

Aww man I had being the thread killer!

No, that will be me weed!
I miss her too. She always gave great advice - I too always wondered if she was a professional psychotherapist or counsellor.
Hope she comes back.

I asked MNHQ to email this thread to Cog. I know it's her decision whether she comes back but lovely HQ have emailed her the link.

Im glad you did that cotton I also loved reading her very reasoned out responses to people, she is certainly one in a million (and hope my comment makes it to her)

Definitely think she has studied some kind of Psychology.

What a lovely thing to handful I hope she reads this thread

That was a great idea cotton

She was the first one who told me to tell my cheating exH to fuck off to the far side of fuck and when he got there to fuck off some more - always remember that

It's not a fan club, just wanted her to know how much she has helped and lovely HQ sent this to her.

FWIW - as I remembered that mantra - I always thought it was AF who had told me that. I re-read and was surprised that it was Cog as it wasn't like her posting style but it was just what I needed to hear at the time.

Oh wow that's so cool that Mumsnet HQ have emailed Cog. What a brilliant idea :-))))