I can't believe I'm having this issue and we haven't even finished June!
Since we had DC1 5 years ago we have alternated between the three sets of grandparents for Christmas day. This year it would be my DM & SDF. We had the call this week, they want to know our plans to get flights booked for Christmas. This would be the only get together this year, the DC's would all be happy enough to see them even if it's cramped in our tiny house.
The issue is DH strongly wants this year to be just us and the DC for Christmas day. It sounds nice but I am feeling like the bad person because it will be me breaking the news and having to explain why they can't come. DM is a narc, SDF is her enabler. I have been in therapy most of this year to recover from damage she inflicted and I'm doing really well.
It's not helping that DH and I aren't very close at the moment, due to his lack of effort with our relationship. I just don't know what to do, do I stick with DH and accept the fall out (it will be epic!) or do I get it over with for the sake of one day or so in the year?