Been with DP for a few months, everything is fantastic and we're starting to talk about moving in and our future together. Our relationship is great, we trust each other, we have our own hobbies that we enjoy separately and we do things together. We have a great group of mutual friends, basically I love him to bits and our relationship is everything I've always wanted. We have the odd stupid row like all couples but I genuinely haven't got a bad word about our relationship. Which is what makes this so bloody hard.
A few months before we met so around 18 months ago, he had a small mark on his penis. He'd assumed it was an ingrown hair but by the time he'd eventually got the courage to go to the clinic just in case it had gone, they told him they couldn't test for herpes unless he was showing symptoms. He was quite honest about this from the start so I have no reason to doubt him, all other tests had come back clear and nothing had ever come up since, until 2 weeks ago. He had a small rash and this time he went straight away, results have come back and it's herpes. I'm gutted. I'd had my period luckily and then we abstained so no chance I've got it, however I still have been to the clinic myself to check for anything else and my results are all clear.
He's totally gutted, he told me he understands if I no longer want to be with him. I don't know what to think. Would you leave? I want a future with him, but my sexual health is also important to me. I've been reading about it and even condoms don't always protect you. I'm totally stuck with what to do. Please be gentle, I'm gutted and I love the guy.