People who were single around age 30 for whatever reason, but really wanted a relationship. What happened and where are you now?

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I want to hear from people who wanted a relationship but found themselves single at 30.

Did you meet someone or didn't you?

I live in a quiet town but work in a big city. I am scared my dream of a family won't happen - some women in their fifties in my office never met anyone and I feel terrified that that may be me.

Oh crap. Had a big think in my 30th birthday obviously

BarbarianMum What age was your DH when you met him? I hope it is O.K to ask. :)

Was single at 30. Started dating XH when nearly 31. Married at 33. Had DCs at 36 and 38. Left XH at 40, divorced the following year. XH was an utter mistake and marriage was a disaster (I settled) except for the DCs who are wonderful. Now am single (but not celibate IYSWIM) and a single mum.

It's fine to ask if I can type out numbers correctly . He's 6 years older than me, so 36 when we started going out. He was a colleague of mine actually, so I'd known him for a while. Liked him for a while but he was recovering from a nasty break up so I didn't want to show that I liked him. That was one of the things that the 'big think' on my birthday changed. I asked him out as a friend, we went out as friends for a while and then.....

Lovely BarbarianMum :) Did he have children from a previous relationship?

single at 29 and some odd with 1 DC. have lost hope that i will have the family i always dreamed of...ie...husband and kids...possibly one more. My DS is the most amazing wonderful person though. :-) being a single mum working FT i dont know how/where i am to find time to get out. maybe it will happen....but probably not...i have just resigned myself to accept that. It does get lonely sometimes.

No, neither of us had children. He was just this shy guy, concentrating on work and saving up for a bachelor pad.

I met dh when I was 30, through a mutual hobby.

Aww BarbarianMum he sounds perfect :) I want a man same as he!

I was single at 30. Did a lot of online dating but met someone at about 31. Went on to have DS when I was 33. We split when he was 9 months old. iI am now 36 and in a new relationship of 9 month. Met him online. I'm very happy.

I lived with my boyfriend for five years before spitting up when I was 31. We had a year's break and got back together again when I was 32. I had one DC when I was 33 and the other when I was 36.

Single until 28, although I'd been quite the man-about-town priapic little shit until then. Met DW2B that autumn, married a year later, just celebrated Silver.

Found myself single at 30 and did some soul searching, realising that love did not have to be about grand passion and drama, it could instead be something warm and reassuring. So after turning a 'friend' down for a date 12 years earlier I decided to give it a try. Now been together for 11 years and have an 8 year old DD.

I was 29 and single. Had also sworn myself off relationships. That lasted 2 whole months when I met my (now) DH. We married when I was 30 and had DS when I was 38.

So for me, what did it was that I absolutely, 100% wasn't looking

Man talking...

I was single at 20, again at 30, once more at 40. Still single at 44. Oh well. Some of us are just plain unlucky .

went online dating at 32 - after quite a wild couple of years with unsuitable men. Met DP and now have 2 children together (I'm 44)

I was single until 29.
Met DC's dad. Had 3DC. He was an abusive twat. We split up.
I'm now late 30s and in the best relationship I've ever had.
(There is hope!)

These stories are uplifting!! Love this thread!

Anymore? :)

Single at 31 (engaged at 30 but we then broke up!) Met future husband at 33, engaged at 34, married at 35, first baby a few months ago. Lots of my close friends, who were all single four or five years ago, also met people and got married/moved in together during that time period. About half met their partners online dating and the others through friends, work, hobbies etc. One met her DP at a christening where they were both godparents.

My best friend was dumped by her bloke of 5 years just before her 30th birthday. She turned 38 in April. She's still single, despite being attractive, intelligent, funny, always out doing things with wide hobbies and interests, did the internet dating thing for 4 years.

I was in a relationship from age 26-36 then split up. Been single ever since and am now 41.

You can follow all advice to put yourself out there, take up new hobbies, do everything that everyone says and still not meet someone. Because, at the end of the day, it's luck. I know someone that married the first person they met when they tried online dating. But she was his 19th date.

I ended a long term 11 year relationship when I was about 30. We had no kids because I was focusing on my career and I never ever wanted to marry him.

I didn't want to get involved with anyone and stayed single for about 2 years before meeting DH. I am now 39 and married with an 18 month old.

You have lots of time Op.

I was single at 30 - I am now 40. Met my fiancé at 35/36 through online saying, had my son and we are very happy together. We've had a rough couple of years with recurrent miscarriages but it's brought us closer together and we are hopefully getting married next year.

*dating

I was the only one of my pre kids friends who was married and had children by 30. They all are now, other than some of the guys.