People who were single around age 30 for whatever reason, but really wanted a relationship. What happened and where are you now?

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I want to hear from people who wanted a relationship but found themselves single at 30.

Did you meet someone or didn't you?

I live in a quiet town but work in a big city. I am scared my dream of a family won't happen - some women in their fifties in my office never met anyone and I feel terrified that that may be me.

Single at 30. Someone asked me if it bothered me being single and 30. I said, 'no, the only thing that bothers me is that people think it bothers me that I'm single and 30'.

Never did OL dating or anything like that. I had great friends, a good job, had travelled, looked all right, and frankly I thought I was a great catch. I still do.

Met someone at 31 and now I'm mid 40s with 3 kids.

I'm still a great catch.

I was single with no real track record of long-term relationships at 30. I met my husband and had two children a few years later. I would say that all of my friends have found a partner if they wanted one, although some were in their early forties and they haven't gone on to have children partly due to time issues.

Single at 30 (well, not exactly single, but only "dating" having been in relationship from age 23 - 28)
Met DH at 32
Married DH at 35
Now 38 and about to TTC.

Met him in Ikea, of all places.

Em - has he got a flat pack?

Divorced at 28. Single til 40 when I met Dh. Had DD at 43!

inexperiencedchick what are the family requests holding you back?

I'm a nosy cow.

Turned 30, had two blokes on the go, quite liked both but one lived abroad so easy to juggle them. Got dumped by one, the other one fizzled. Had a rebound fling with a 21 year old french chap. Got together with a safe bet - but it didn't work good on paper but too geeky for me. (He "made love" FFS). Split up met DH. married two and a half years later, now have two DC. Now living what I always wanted but it isn't everything.

Not me but quite a lot of friends: single and getting a bit despairing until mid or late 30s then suddenly seemed to meet new bloke, fall in love, marry etc etc.

Yes I was single at 30. Was online dating on and off and generally enjoying a pretty active social life. Living in north London.

Met Dh on Match when I was 33. Married at 35, had ds at 36 and number 2 is due any day now and I'm 38.

You've got time!

I was a single parent at 30, with a six year old child. I'm now 53 and still single. I kind of think I missed the boat, or that everyone hates me. One or the other.

Let a friend set me up, but I had to compromise on some stuff. I had to accept that everyone has some baggage by 30 and I'd have to decide what sort of baggage I could put up with.

I made him shave the beard off though

Married with 2 kids now. The beard returned but we compromised. Hairiness for both or neither, so o don't bother doing my bikini line (hate doing it!)

The baggage was bearable.

Single at 30, met DH through a dating website at 33 now have been married for 10 years.

It's all right to be nosy sometimes but not in this case I guess ;)

Take courage! I met DP shortly before I turned 36 and had DS at 39.

Met dp at 30, 33 now, one ds, looking to buy house and marry next year, then try for dc2

Single at 29. Met DH at 29 and a half. Started dating him a few months later. Had him as a proper boyfriend by 30. Got married just before I was 31. Have two lovely grown up children.

I had given up men when I met him and I knew I would marry him the night I met him.

Met dh online at 31, married and dd born 2 years later, 10 years later still married (v happily) and have 2 more kids.

Make it happen, op. Do things which will allow you to meet lots of the right type of people.

I met my now DH a month before my 30th birthday. I am now 33 and we have two kids

Was in casual relationship with idiot / manchild at 30, finished shortly after my birthday.

Single for 1 year. Met DH, married, baby on the way by mid 30s. V happy.

I was single at 30 after coming out of a 9 year relationship

I didn't mind being single but I wanted to know that it would work out for me in time as I knew my ideal was to get married and have a family. As I was unable to see into the future I can't pretend I was happily single as I assumed I'd messed up and wouldn't meet anyone I wanted to commit to.

I started dating now dh when I was 31 and we got married just after my 33rd birthday. Still working on the family

Single at 30.
Single at 31.
Single at 32.
Single at 33.
Single at 34.
Single at 35.

Consistency is key, guys.

Single at 30 and decided to try online dating as going out to pubs and clubs isn't my cup of tea. I'm not involved in hobbies that attract lots of single, young men, and a similar situation at work. Met a few frogs online, one relationship of any length (just short of a year) before meeting my fiancé. We're getting married in August and planning to start a family.

Online dating can work, but you need a fairly thick skin, and you need to be prepared to sift your way though quite a few time wasters/just not your type before you meet the right person, and there's no guarantees. Going online was scary, but I viewed it as a way of increasing my chances of meeting the right person, as being still single while watching all my friends and family getting married and having kids was making me deeply unhappy.

Met DH when I was 30 - but we didn't get together until I was 32, it was an office romance! Married at 34.

My late 20's and early 30s were up and down - I did worry about meeting someone but now I wished I had just enjoyed being single a bit more. At 29 i was working in East Anglia and someone from my then office literally told me that I was the only single person in the firm as if I was some weirdo! Age 30 I moved to London and pretty much everyone I met was single. I had a blast.

I think meeting someone when you are in your 30's is the way to go. Yo change a lot in your 20's.