Is this grounds for divorce?

[Siennasun]

I've started a few threads recently about my job/marriage and how it's all a bit crap really.
Tonight DH and I went out together on a very rare night out just the 2 of us. DS staying over at PIL. Had a lovely night. Got train home. It's 20 minute walk from station to our house. Walk involves going through housing that's all very similar looking and I haven't done this walk often so don't know the way and am notorious for having no sense if direction
Anyway about 5 minutes into walk DH took my bag and ran off. So I was left with no phone, no wallet totally alone with no idea where I was. It took me 2 hours (in the rain ) to get home. When I finally did get back we were furious with each other. DH said he'd been looking for be but couldn't find me. Had a huge argument resulting in me giving him back my wedding ring, saying I want a divorce and calling my dad to come and pick me up. I'm at my dad's house now.

Have I over reacted ?

This is the bloke that did this before isn't it?

Sweetheart this isn't going to come good.

He has his own agenda with that behaviour which is likely very sinister. Normal reaction to a prank going that badly wrong, would be total remorse with lots of making up attempts. His anger response is so abnormal there is definitely a reason he has behind this. I would not be surprised if tipping you over the edge with extra stress, when he knows you already have huge work pressures, is his aim. Why only he knows, the reason is immaterial tbh, that he is doing it at a time you need support is easily enough to LTB. Sometimes you don't need to chase the why, it's enough that someone is dragging you down in life rather than helping by what they do.

After what had seemed a really nice night out it seems a very odd thing to do on impulse.

Bad enough running off without you. But "furious with each other" when you got home - he was mad at you? How's that justifiable. He behaved like a jerk. I don't believe he was looking for you. Going through your bag and phone instead.

No you didn't overreact, I'm glad you called your Dad.

What the heck... I shudder to think of DW alone and lost at night without money, keys or phone, my every instinct is to keep her out of this situation.

It's not even as if it was in the heat of the moment in an argument, where someone vaguely normal might bog off angrily, then regret it immediately and return, but presented as a "prank".

This "prank" sounds a bit mental if you ask me. The "anger" at you afterwards sounds like the "anger" of someone who has done the wrong thing trying to make the situation look different to how it is, perhaps even in a calculating way. Probably wanted, as suggested, to go through your phone or something.

Not sure if grounds for divorce, but the situation needs sorting out, he needs to be honest about the what and the why of this "incident" above all else, you need to know clearly.

I guess this is the tip of a big iceberg.

I remember your previous thread, your job is stressful enough without your husband being a dick.

Thanks for everyone who's replied. I am reading them and thinking about them.
He's never done anything like this before. The thing with baby in a pram wasn't me.
He was more remorseful yesterday when I went home. He said he'd been waiting round the corner to jump out and didn't understand how he'd missed me. That doesn't really explain why he took the bag tho. He also said he was angry with himself for doing something so stupid which was why he was angry when I got home.
I'm not that bothered about the phone. He only deleted texts from him. We Always go on each other's phones so it's not really an invasion of privacy as it would be for others.
The other stuff tho....I'm not sure. I need to sort my job out. Then I'll think about it.

"This is diminishing behaviour from him OP. Would he do it to another man? No. Would he do if he you were not married to him? Doubtful. He does it because he feels he has the right to and that is scary"

YY to this.

OP, the grounds that you need for divorce are simply that you no longer wish to be married to someone. There's no points system or anything. You can leave if he is not making you feel happy, safe or loved.

I suspect he wouldn't apologise if you hadn't left. Good thing that you showed where your boundaries are, but make sure you keep them if he ever acts like such a bastard again.

Is there a way of finding the deleted texts? THAT would give some insight into him as a person!