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Am I mad? MUCH younger man!

74 replies

Taytocrisps101 · 26/05/2015 21:48

Ok, so talk some sense into me! Met a guy at a sporting event at the weekend, talked for about 45 mins and got on really well. Went separate ways and he texted me 3 times over Sunday / Monday ...I didn't reply til Monday evening and we have been texting all day today. He is well keen to meet up and seems like a really nice guy....trouble is, he is 20 years younger than me!! Think early 40s vs early 20s! I am not that naive to think he is looking for a girlfriend and realistic about what the outcome would be.....I am 2 years out of a 14 year marriage and half of me is thinking it might be fun...the other half is thinking I am old enough to be his mother! What to do?!?

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HirplesWithHaggis · 26/05/2015 21:50

Have some fun! If it doesn't feel too weird.

ALaughAMinute · 26/05/2015 21:51

Shag him! Grin

handfulofcottonbuds · 26/05/2015 21:52

Go for it!

You're both single, what's the problem?

Quitelikely · 26/05/2015 21:52

I'm mid thirties and I just couldn't go there with a guy in his early 20s!

Eurghh!

fearandloathinginambridge · 26/05/2015 21:54

don't overthink it. As long as it's fun see where it goes.

ByeByeButterfly · 26/05/2015 21:56

Have a bit of fun - as long as both of you are cool with it who gives a rats ass?

Have fun :D

magoria · 26/05/2015 21:56

My DP is 17 years younger.

I went into it for some fun and 7 years later he is still here.

I recommend ensuring you are both STI free and having some fun.

rosiepinkcheeks · 26/05/2015 21:56

Life is too short. If there is chemistry then why not just go for it. You are both consenting adults.

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Taytocrisps101 · 26/05/2015 21:57

You lot are supposed to be telling me to wise up! It's only a number, I suppose...?? very flattered....he's bloomin' hot!

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mammabmamma · 26/05/2015 21:59

I'm 23, hubby is 50, married, house and kids Grin go for it!!

handfulofcottonbuds · 26/05/2015 21:59

Seriously, don't think too much into it and ignore the 'eurgh' comment.

You're both single adults - go for it and if you're worried about the age thing then lie on your back.....flattens everything Wink

LaurieFairyCake · 26/05/2015 21:59

No, the gap is too wide.

Half your age plus 7 years is the minimum Wink

DixieNormas · 26/05/2015 22:03

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JeanSeberg · 26/05/2015 22:09

Just meet for a coffee, you're getting a bit ahead of yourself after only 45 minutes together...

Offred · 26/05/2015 22:17

I wouldn't even entertain this because of the age gap and likely wouldn't even have been attracted in the first place. I'll not even date 5 years younger but that's because I'm 30 with four primary age kids and a 25 year old would just be in a completely different world to me.

I really don't think I'd entertain someone young enough to be my child when I'm older either as it would feel a little creepy and wrong and I'd be worried about it being abusive since with that age gap you could not possibly be equals in any interaction IMO.

I guess if you are entertaining the idea but seeking reassurance maybe you need to think out exactly why you are entertaining it and why you want reassurance about it and then make a decision that you are happy with but that does seem rather a lot of hard work for something that could only ever be trivial and I guess that'd be another reason I'd not do it!

Ha! most unhelpful post ever! I guess one thing I'd be worried about was being a story for his mates too...

mrstweefromtweesville · 26/05/2015 22:18

Fun. Have fun.

expatinscotland · 26/05/2015 22:19

Not my cup of tea. I'm mid 40s and find men near own age and a bit older attractive. Men that age I see more as potential for my DD soon enough.

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Taytocrisps101 · 26/05/2015 22:22

Ha ha cotton buds not worried about that as I am in ok shape....in fact I wouldn't want to look any flatter in the particular area I am thinking of! Was thinking of meeting for lunch or a coffee and seeing if there is any connection before anything else. Will see if he gets back in touch after work and suggest it.....perhaps he's all mouth and no trousers! ( why can't I get those funny face things to work on my iPad? See, that's how old I am....I don't get technology!!!)

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expatinscotland · 26/05/2015 22:23

'I'm 23, hubby is 50, married, house and kids grin go for it!!'

Which a man has a far less chance of having if married to a woman in her 40s without egg donor. Therein lies a real difference.

handfulofcottonbuds · 26/05/2015 22:26

Don't think too much about it.

Go for lunch, see if there's a connection. Not everyone needs to know your business and if you're both single then nobody has the right to judge!

goddessofsmallthings · 26/05/2015 22:27

If you haven't come across this movie, watch 'The Roman Spring of Mrs Stone' beautifully acted by Vivien Leigh and Warren Beatty.

I like Laurie's minimum rule. Anything younger is strictly one night stand material but, no matter how hot he was, I couldn't bring myself to knowingly jump in the sack with a guy who's young enough to be my son.

Baconontomato · 26/05/2015 22:30

Google Sam Taylor Wood. Look hard at her husband, then wax your swizzle and get out there.

Sallystyle · 26/05/2015 22:32

I agree with offred completely.

I personally look at people younger than me as just kids really.

Baconontomato · 26/05/2015 22:32

Sam Taylor Johnson, sorry.

Am I mad? MUCH younger man!
ThroughThickAndThin01 · 26/05/2015 22:33

Have fun. Go on, go on, go on.