DH discussing our (lack of) sex life with his parents

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I have just found out that he has been discussing our sex life with his parents and I am weirded out. They are coming to dinner tomorrow and not sure how to react

Is this odd to you?

Incredibly odd! Why has he talked to them about that? How do you know?

Very odd.

That would be very odd and I'd be really upset with him.
As for how to act, just ignore it and carry on as normal. With them of course. Not him, he'd be aware just how unacceptable I found that!

I talk to my mum so I don't see it as odd.

why would he do that?! I'd be furious.

YUK! I would feel very very uncomfortable about this and be totally weirded out.

Do they discuss their sex life with their son? Is this a "normal" thing for their family?

How do you know??

Ewwwww!!! It's weird and disgusting!

Hopefully they have enough manners not to bring it up when they come to dinner. But if he got his ideas about what is appropriate to discuss with who from them, who knows?

Eugh, why?

I'd be absolutely horrified!!

Odd!

Although as a disclaimer DS1 aged 19 is always talking to me about his sex life and I'm and really don't want to know.

As a positive, he's close to his parents, and they may be as shocked as you are....

It depends on what he talked about, I suppose.

How have you found out? And what did he say?

I think discussing some aspects of your sex life with your parents would be properly odd, but if you are having relationship problems and he talking about that with his parents, it's a bit different.

For the record, my mother sometimes talks about her sex life with me.

Maybe you should try and get some info on them too, that way you are all on an equal footing cringewise.

I have to confess I was snooping on his emails. We share passwords etc and I heard him mentioning to his mum about an email which had dates discussed for babysitting so I was checking the dates he had emailed through to her.

He has been whinging about our lack of sex life . We have talked about it and frankly our relationship is not great at the moment for various reasons but mostly because he has been so whiney and hard work I just dont feel sexually attracted to him. We have a 10 month old (his idea not mine).

Sorry for the dripfeed, had to sort out the baby nightime bottle!

I would never discuss my sex life with my mum. A close friend yes, but not my parents.

Mind you he has form for this we had counselling a few year back and one of my bugbears came out that he discusses my health with his family and I thought it was none of their business.

That is odd. Very odd.

Will you tell him you have seen these emails? Or will you stay quiet and quietly skqirm when you next see them?

Yes, very odd. Although SIL discusses her sex life with her parents! DH wouldn't dream of it.

more like quietly seethe and simmer I think Phoenix

I honesly feel like this is the last straw though.

DP's DF discusses his sex life with DP, who sometimes repeats bits to me (I don't encourage this). I personally find intergenerational conversation about sex surplus to requirements, in all circumstances.

That is so odd.

No one wants to discuss their sex life with their parents surely? Even more so as a married grown adult. I'd be furious.

I don't think it us odd. I disvuss my sex life with dm and wouldn't mind dh talking about non specifics with his parents. Better that than bottling it all up.

In context of relationships problems I think it's understandable but I assume he doesn't go into details. You can't censor what they are talking about but I would impose limits on what comes back to you. So for example I wouldn't discuss with MIL what DH (not me) told her. Why are you reading his emails? Is it that bad? I would hit the roof if DH started snooping on me (for whatever reason).

I don't think eurgh or disgusting but yes I would feel furious.

But actually df tried to discuss his with me and that was eurgh and disgusting!

Can you talk to him about it op?

Oh god, I'd find that excruciating!

When my bil got a vasectomy, it was a joint decision between his wife and her mother. It just seemed so odd to me that it could be a joint family decision. In my imagination, I see the poor bloke being driven off in a dog crate, holding onto the bars and looking sad.

When you say, " We have a 10 month old (his idea not mine)." do you mean he talked you into having a child? Did he enlist his parents help in this? From your post, it seems like there's even more to this than him whining to his parents about not enough sex.

Christ, he emails them about it?!