Being in love is a disease

[DanielGray25]

They say that love is blind. Rubbish. Love is the most clear sighted thing in the world. Attachment is blind, because its stupid, because its based on a false belief and we call THAT love.

"I am in love with you" "I love you" What? Do you love me or do you love yourself? Do you know what "in love" means? It means I want you for me, I am possessive of you, I am not going to be happy without you and I emotionally depend on you. That is a drug, that is a disease and this disease according to society is the supreme virtue of life. Its garbage, but who dares to say this?

You are blind and full of yourself when you are in love, ever thought of that? You don't actually see the other person because you projected onto the other person a hopeful idea of them and that's what you love. You dont actually love the person.

This is why relationships are the biggest cause of conflict on this planet, why most people are generally quite miserable, why half of marriages end in divorce and a good portion of "successful" marriages are full of hard work and very mediocre. Everybody seems to be going into them with blinders on and when the relationship ends they usually end up hating each other.

The main preoccupation of society is to keep society sick. The only answer is to take the blinders off, ignore what everyone else is telling you love is, allow the other person to be free and have no expectations.

Can you do that? Or will you continue to spend your whole life trying to make something work that isnt designed to work, like most humans do?

OP here's a link I think sums it all up for me. What you say filters through slightly but you leave no room for imperfection, you sound like you believe your almost godlike and you have all the answers.

www.mindful.org/in-love-and-relationships/intimate-relationships/the-perfect-love-we-seek-the-imperfect-love-we-live

Were you wanking while you typed all of that OP?

"While you're busy wasting your time talking to them, all of these women are banging someone else who doesn't talk to them"

Maybe it's just me, but I'd feel a bit uncomfy attempting conversation with someone whilst they were "banging" someone else. Bit surplus to requirements. What if the "banger" was just thinking of the next conversational gambit, and you rudely interrupted? I don't have conversations with dh either, when we're "banging". What should we talk about?

I think Op spends too much time in his bedroom.

you are not Jean Paul Sartre and your arguments are rubbish. Go do some more thinking

Monogamy and marriage are man made constructs agreed. They are not a natural state of affairs but institutions brought about in relation to specific material conditions which give birth to them.

Love is I think slightly different although again the way we understand it, the words we use to describe it, the limits placed upon it, the whole way in which we conceive of it, and therefore even think we "feel" it are conditioned by discourses and practices. Words and actions are mutually reinforcing.

I agree with OP that love should be something we give unconditionally. I think most of us have a certain conception of love that means we place a lot of limitations upon people around us. We project fears of abandonment and jealousy onto others. The whole discourse about monogamy is just that, one particular way of thinking and therefore feeling about love.

I think love is something that is too limited within present society, most of us probably have no capacity for love of others who we judge to be unworthy, and we often judge others very harshly.

I don't think "love" is a disease, if it is, it certainly isn't a particularly contagious disease! what is contagious is the myths, stories and language, limitations and institutions we create around it.

Absolutely barking!

Good lord, just had a look at the site linked to earlier in the thread.

T say they're not keen on women is putting it mildly.

Boy this thread has tested my pelvic floor.

Thanks for the entertainment

Love is the most beautiful thing in the world when you find the right person.

Have you had a bad experience? Do you think you would benefit from some counselling?

I hope you find happiness with someone you love because it would be a shame to miss out.

OP Is this part of your GCSE philosophy coursework?

If you google sections of the OP he is just lifting the whole thing from a book. A good book, actually.

If he also read the rest of the books by this author he'd get to the bit where he (DeMello) says 'don't try and make people listen, they don't want to listen!' I don't think this isn't your target market right here OP, also I resent you regurgitating massive bits of one of my favourite spiritual writers as though it's your own work. That's not on.
Off you pop.

Sorry, I appear to have killed the thread

x posts, Andy

Have a couple of paracetamol and a little lie down, OP.