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Should I ask him up here?

494 replies

sourdrawers · 17/05/2015 12:06

Look I know it's Sunday and the sun is shining.. But pleease I need some encouragement . I posted my story on 'what's the most embarrassing thing that's happened to you?' thread yesterday and feel it's time to look wider for help.

Cutting long story short - bloke I fancy lives in garden flat below me. Pretty sure he's single, another neighbour reckons so too. Me, hung washing out on my balcony (mostly undies), windy day, they all flew off and landed in his garden downstairs. I plucked up the nerve to go down there ask him if I could get them, he agreed very nicely offered to help. I refused it and sprinted through his place, to garden, picked, (I thought), all my washing up and was leaving hurriedly, managed to catch bra strap in door handle, they all fell on his floor and I banged head on his living room door. I gathered up all items again and ran home burning with embarrassment.

Day later, knock on door, I answered in old jogging bottoms, filthy old vest, and cat shit, litter tray shovel in my hand. It was him, with a pair of my huge, grey baggies in his hand. He gave them (lovely smile) to me, and made a witty remark. Told me his name and that he's a plumber etc.. I, through half-opened front door , snatched nix off him, in tears of embarrassment. He left saying if he found anymore he'd bring them back..

Anyhow couple of days on and I'm calm and looking incredibly gorgeous, his car is downstairs and I have leaking tap. Should I ask him up here???? If so, how?? WTF do I say??

OP posts:
Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 21/05/2015 22:21

Yeah so am I having fun. We all are I don't doubt. Just that we don't all give a running commentary every time we have a shag do we.

MrsCorr · 21/05/2015 22:23

Sounds like maybe you aren't getting it enough lighthouse Wink

Goodbetterbest · 21/05/2015 22:24

You are wrong lighthouse. When you haven't had sex for years, when you question whether anyone will ever find you attractive again, your self-esteem shattered and you build yourself up, recover, find a lover - it is in fact massive. And if Sour wants to shout it from the rooftops, I'll listen and hang the bunting out.

Lweji · 21/05/2015 22:26

I know I'm not getting enough.

Sadly DS is not yet at Uni. Another 8 years to go. Sad

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 21/05/2015 22:28

I don't have to discuss my sex life Mrs Corr. That's between my self and my dp.
But we are ttc so use your imagination.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 21/05/2015 22:31

Good you'll hang out the bunting because some stranger on the internet hAs had a shag.
Me thinks You need to get out more, love. Just saying

Goodbetterbest · 21/05/2015 22:31

If you don't want to be part of this conversation lighthouse, feel free to leave it. I suspect you are younger, you have a long term partner and long may it last. I hope you are as content in later life. But let us enjoy our excitement of finding this again.

Goodbetterbest · 21/05/2015 22:32

And I don't care what you think lighthouse Smile

yougotafriend · 21/05/2015 22:36

This thread didn't start as a boast about shagging, we all encouraged sour and we're invested in the outcome.... Gagging for the details in fact

I'm single an the same age as the op, I am surprised when I get a snog let alone a shag and am so excited I tell everyone who wants to listen

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 21/05/2015 22:37

I don't begrudge anyone happy healthy full filling sex life. I just think bragging is s bit teenagery. I also do not approve of people mocking those who do not have sex. There could be a very valid reason heaven forbid a past rape or something,

Sherborne · 21/05/2015 22:37

It's lovely to be witness to the birth of a relationship for a change, rather than the more usual disintegration of them that appear on here.

Iflyaway · 21/05/2015 22:47

Hey, lighthouse I suggest you start your own thread instead of throwing your hang ups all over this one.

I'm 60 and I still shag shock horror LOL

Me, loving it.. This thread.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 21/05/2015 22:50

Not interested if you shag, fly.
Why is it shock horror.
Like I said we all do it.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 21/05/2015 22:51

Oh and I'll still be shagging at 160.
Have fun

Wristy · 21/05/2015 22:55

To be fair when DH and I were ttc sex was pretty dull and mechanical. We were at it all the time but it didn't necessarily feel spontaneous or fun. I think sour is awesome (said so before) and if she wants to brag I for one will congratulate her! Good luck with ttc by the way. Xx

Christinayanglah · 21/05/2015 22:56

Sour

Brilliant brilliant thread

You go girl

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 21/05/2015 23:01

If that message is for me wristy. Thank you, it means a lot.
I just don't think the op is amazing because she's having sex that's all. Like wise I dont think a women is inferior if she doesn't have sex. There's always a back story isn't there. No one applauds me for dtd. Do people applaud you. Or anyone else on this thread or on this planet. Didn't think so.
X

JugglingLife · 21/05/2015 23:04

Lighthouse, i love this thread but I don't see it as being about a shag, I see it as being about hope and happiness and all that jazz. and if sour gets a shag along the way then good for her

Christinayanglah · 21/05/2015 23:12

Ah lighthouse come on, in a topic so filled with pain and sadness it's nice to see some happiness and fun

alongcamespiders · 21/05/2015 23:24

Oh wow, lighthouse, how bitter? Poor woman's just having a bit of a laugh, a girlish giggle is fun every now and then.
In response to you: no, everyone is not at it all the time. I was in an almost sexless marriage for some time and the sex was hideous when we did have it.
I know plenty of people who are alone and not shagging or in relationships and not shagging, how can you say everyone is doing it?!
When I do have good sex and enjoy the attention of a good man I want to shout it from the rooftops.everybody who has commented is enjoying this thread, not quite sure why you have to come and be so mardy, methinks you have a chip on your shoulder.

Luisanna · 21/05/2015 23:32

Fab thread, really made me smile! Until lighthouse came along.....bitter much?!

RumAppleGinger · 22/05/2015 00:13

So what if sour sounds like a teenager. Perhaps the rush and thrill of meeting a guy that has made her feel happy and confident and sexy has made her feel like a teenager.

This thread has made me smile. Away and piss on someone else's chips.

beaglesaresweet · 22/05/2015 00:13

lighthouse, you completely miss the point. OP is not 'awesome' or admired for having a shag, but for the character and humour and also being brave enough to ask a man out after he's seen her at her worst! it's a great lesson btw, men are not all shallow and don't judge a girl after seeing her big baggy pants on washing line (well ok, some do, but they are idiots imo) Grin.

summersonitsway · 22/05/2015 01:51

Oh lighthouse do fuck off Flowers

BastardGoDarkly · 22/05/2015 04:17

^^ yep, that.

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